Why Accepting Your Partner As‑Is Can Strengthen a Marriage

0:00I think Layla and I practice acceptance very well. Which is that the reason that I married Layla was that she never wanted to change anything about me. That was what I wanted. I just wanted to be me. And I felt like a lot of times I had to compromise or you know, I I felt like I needed to compromise who I was or what I wanted to do for a middle ground. And I think there there are plenty of marriages to be fair that that do that and they do it exceptionally well. And this isn't me saying that that's good or bad or whatever. I'm only sharing what has worked for us is that Layla's Layla and if she wants to wear the nicest clothes and drive the nicest cars and be in the nicest penthouses and stuff, then if it doesn't bother me, let's do it. And at the same time, if I want to wear I'll look like an electrician, you know,

0:43>> [laughter] >> A lumberjack electrician. >> Right. Then she doesn't try and dress me a certain way or make me, you know, like, "Hey, it'd be really cool if you were just scruffy, you know, or I wish you cut your hair like that." Like she she just doesn't, you know, and I think the big thing for us is that we are absolutely aligned on the big mission and we're absolutely aligned on the values, which is so where we want to go and how we want to get there.