Nervosität als Aufregung umdeuten

0:00Things are not what they are, things are what we think they are. For instance, you're doing a hard workout which gives you a signature feeling. You're laid on the floor panting, heart rate at 180, sweating from everywhere with the taste of metal in your mouth. This is oddly enjoyable, but if this exact same sensation was to spontaneously occur in your car while sat in traffic, you'd call an ambulance for fear that you're having a heart attack. Framing is everything. Rory Sutherland says, "Sometimes you just want to stand in the corner and stare out of the window." The problem is when you're not smoking and staring out of the window, you're an antisocial friendless idiot. If you stand and stare out of the window with a cigarette, you're a [ __ ] philosopher.

0:39The power of reframing things cannot be overstated. It's significantly easier to find a way to reframe your experiences as enjoyable while you improve them rather than waiting for them to be done before you give yourself license to be happy. So, a friend of mine, she's a a very very successful therapist, and she always asks her patients when they come to her and say some terrible thing happened. She said, "What would it take for this to be amazing?"

1:08And so, for example, lady comes says, "We're getting a divorce." And she says, "So, what would it take for this to be amazing?" And so, it just completely shifts the reality of like, okay, how could this be an amazing thing that could happen to me? And this is relevant for me shifting gears because I we just had a big tryout inside of our company for a presentation slot that we have an event. So, we had a bunch of the leaders in the company. They were >> It was like the [ __ ] Hunger Games. >> Yeah, we put a cash prize out. >> the death. No, pitchforks. >> No, we put a big cash prize out there. Oh, yeah, I totally did that.

1:34>> [laughter] >> I I told them I was like, "I'll have no no expression." >> Just in a toga. >> Yeah, exactly. And and I could tell that some of them were nervous. And I thought about this cuz, you know, I speak a fair amount and I don't get a lot of nerves in general and have a whole bunch of thoughts on that, but the most basic one is that if you're still feeling anxiety, which many of them were like, "Hey, I'm so nervous." or "Hey, I have a lot of before going up. I thought about it and champions just interpret anxiety as excitement. And if you're excited to go up, then you're like, I'm amped versus I'm stressed, but it feels the same. But the way you frame it totally changes how you feel when you're stepping on stage.

2:13Um but my two cents of if you are feeling lots of anxiety, it means you need to practice more. That's just my two cents and that comes for everything, whether it's to have a meeting or give a presentation or write an email or give a book. Like if you feel nervous before you release it, then you probably didn't work on it enough. And I think the reality is that most people to get not anxious about whatever they're doing, you have to do it so many times that by the last time you're doing it, you're bored of it. Like you don't even want to see the thing again. When you're sick of it is the point where you'll have no adrenal response to the stimulus because you've seen it so many times. You could do it in your sleep because you hated it at this point. And then when you get up, you're like, oh my god, let's just do this because I'm I can breathe this thing.

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