Gewinne so groß, dass die Konkurrenz irrelevant wird

0:00Do you believe success is the best revenge? [laughter] My um my ninth grade uh tennis coach who was also this gigantic jack dude. Um who ended up always staying after school with me and working out with me, like taught me how to lift weights. Uh he told me that when I was like a really, you know, angsty teenager when I was like, I'm going to get back with these guys. He's like, no you're not. He's like, no you're not. He said, "If you came back at a 10-year reunion and you told them like, "Look at me." He said, "You would look like the biggest loser in the world, but in in your 15-year-old mind, you're like, "It's going to be awesome." But it's but when you play it out, it's like, "No, it actually isn't awesome." Like, the only way that you can really quote it back is that you would, you know, win so big that you shrink them into irrelevance. And so, I think like the real real behind the success is the only revenge is that you just don't really think about them anymore. It's just not really a thing.

0:53Because if if I actually thought about somebody every day, they won. [laughter] Like they won. And so I I balance or I hedge that against if you want something out of life, then I am willing to burn whatever fuel I've got. And so I think a lot of people um so there's this boat, this seems like a nonsequitter, but I'll wrap it around. Um there's this boat that I remember seeing in a harbor once and it said, "Don't analyze your pleasures." And I thought that was a really interesting name for a boat first off, but it was a really interesting phrase. And so I thought about that and I was like, well, don't analyze your fuel because I think a lot of people are, you know, I mean, some people want to have passion, but like passion, I think, is very fleeting. There's there's a lot of things. There's a lot of overhead in doing the things that you want to do. If you want to get in shape, there's plenty of days you don't want to work out, plenty days you'd rather just eat cookies. Like there's overhead, right? Uh there's things that you don't want to do even if you like fitness. Um, but if you need to use revenge as your fuel to become successful, which you want, then use it. And so if you don't have any of the positive, you know, emotions, if you want to call it that, um, then use the negative ones, you know, and then maybe you'll get to a point where you can use some positive ones. Cuz I remember I went to a performance coach years and years ago.

2:08Um, it didn't last long, but I said, I feel like I have fuel. I said, "But I feel like it burns dirty. Like, I feel like I can accomplish whatever I want." I was like, "But I just I don't I don't like the fuel that I use to to get there." And um she didn't really have a good answer for me, but that's why it didn't last very long, but um but even even going through the process of asking the question made me think about it and I was like, "Why do I say it burns dirty?" Like, "What about it does it affect in my life?" And then I was like, "Huh, well, is there a way that I can do the same behaviors I do when I'm quote angry about something when I'm not angry?" And then over time, I was like, "Well, then I can just get rewarded from the activities and shift away from kind of the original catalyst uh for beginning the behavior set." And so I think there is some sort of kind of inertia that you have to overcome in the beginning. And that's why I recommend to people just use whatever you got. You know, if you're ashamed, use that. If you're scared, use that. If you're anxious, use that. If you're angry, use that. Use whatever you have. Um, but if doing it over time isn't getting what you want, then change so that you can get more of what you want. And but like I the the difficulty that I think some people have with my, you know, my content is that I just I really have no judgment. So I don't I don't I don't pretend to have a moral high ground. I don't have like I don't I'm not just I'm just not going to judge someone on what they do. Like if if that's that's what works for you, do it. You know, if that's if that's what's getting what you want out of life, amazing. Pro. I mean, for me, I would say like my my my secular views are, you know, try not to impact other people negatively. But beyond that, you know, if you want to eat bubble gum and watch and I don't know why you eat bubble gum, but that's what you want to do, right? And you want to watch Netflix all day and play video games, then like great. Like I it's just like some people are like, why could you say that? It was like how could I say that? How am I going to project my my desires on somebody else?

3:56If they're could they're they want to do that, then they can do that. And if they're and they can do that and here's the thing is you don't have to do it forever. You can do it as long as it serves you. And if something else serves you differently, because I mean I get I get I get attacked sometimes. They're like, "What he's doing is not sustainable. If there's a day where I don't want to do what I'm doing anymore, I'll stop or I'll just shift. I'll do less." It's like we have this idea that anything that someone does is forever and always. And the only thing that's guaranteed is that it won't be forever.

4:22And it's certainly not always. And so it's just like we we make these projections of other people that they're we we fictionalize them. We create these we these straw men that we attack. um and they're just not real. And so at the same time, that's a great way of overcoming kind of the the multitude of hate you get when you just, you know, expose yourself to millions and millions of people is like they're not attacking me. They're attacking an idea that they have in their head of somebody else that I remind them of. And that's okay.

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