Wie man schwierige Phasen im Leben durchsteht

0:00You're not having a bad year. You've had a few bad days that you're thinking about for the rest of the year. I've found it helpful when I'm in a bad season, like I'm in right now, to just focus on having a good day. A good day and a bad season is a bite-sized victory. String a few of those in a row, and a bad season feels less hard. I'm pretty sure the difference between a happy life and an unhappy one doesn't come down to how many good or bad days you have, but which days you think about over and over again. In some seasons of life, maintaining is winning.

0:34Couldn't have put it better myself. [laughter] Um, this has been the this has been my my big focus right now is um, and I'm not the first person to say this, but just winning the day. Um, and Bill Aman had this uh, I heard him on a podcast talking about this hard season where he was getting divorced. He just lost $4 billion in Perishing Square. his investment firm and he was not him today. He was earlier on his career. So, I mean, it was just the worst. And because he had lost his money, the divorce was for way more money because it was based on his net worth that didn't exist anymore. And was just a terrible slog. And he said, "One of the difficult parts about that period is that there was no one thing that was like, oh, I can tackle this today."

1:16Like, you're not going to finish the divorce today. You're not going to undo the $4 billion loss today. And so it's like when you have these larger, more complex negative things that do scale, it's like how do you how do you how do you navigate through that? And for anyone who's listening right now, it's like maybe it's the bad breakup. Maybe it's the or maybe you're getting divorced, right? Or maybe it's like the business isn't working the way you want. It's like and there's like 10 things that you have to fix. And it's like, well, I can't fix that change in the in the logo until the next run. So I just have to see this every single day.

1:43>> And so he he had this very tactical advice which I liked a lot, which is he just tried to make progress and that was it. And he said, you know, in a day you it's almost it's almost negligible, right? But at 30 days you're like, okay, I moved this. And at 90 you're like, wow, you know, this this is really this is really materially changed um in what's happened. Now, does this mean that we're our mood is still being dictated by circumstance? Yes, I'll be honest. Yes, it does. But I think I think many of us have this ideal. We'd love to be able to great be in a great mood with in the absence of things to be in a great mood about. But sometimes progress is the W. Like maintaining in some seasons is winning. And I've had to tell myself that also that we can have these different like on the on business factor. I'm murdering it. I'm crushing there. But like I had I tore my quad this year uh which sucked. I had uh uh yeah, painful. Um I have a a neck thing that's just been bugging the hell out of me. Right. So it's like and I have two great fears in life. One is that I lose my mind, which is really just more that I'll be a burden to everybody else. I won't know cuz my mind will be lost, right? Um, and the other is chronic pain. Those are like my two great fears in life because chronic pain is really tough. Like the first thing you think about when you open your eyes in the morning is pain and it's like [ __ ] It's like and now I have to be in a good mood, right? Because I demand this of myself. And so, um, when in in navigating those those scenarios, um, just trying to chip away and also to take the reverse of I had this one great podcast today. I'm going to make that thing the thing that's making this a great day. And then if I can make that great day, then maybe it could be a great week. And then trying to expand those basically like let those good moments eat up the season. And I made a conscious decision on May 1st. And I think I did I send you the the screenshot of my HRV.

3:32>> Yes. >> So I it was May 1st. I was like, "Fuck this." I was like, [laughter] I told I was like, "I have decreed that the rest of the year will be good." And so I'm putting so much mental effort into this, which is why this is so timely from from the from us talking about it. Um, in actively trying to minimize all the down things and super super focus on those moments and be like, cool, I had that good moment. That's my day. Days made. And I'm trying to even say that more

4:00>> like, oh, this podcast made my day. This podcast made my week. Now, I used to think, oh, this made my week. When someone would say something small, I'd be like, that's what made your week. Like you must not have a lot going on. >> So true, >> right? Like ment like like my own judge judge machine, right? >> That's lame. >> Yeah, exactly. >> Stupid thing. Oh my god. How feeble, how small is your life that something so unimpressive is a source of gratitude to you for a week or

4:28>> yet? And yet, >> yeah, >> your life is made up of small days like this. >> That is what life is. And if your expectation of life is that it's going to be, well, until I play the main stage at EDC, until I make the billion dollars, until I get married to the love of my life, until I get these things, you're just holding your happiness hostage, until something great happens, and what if, again, what we said before, what if something small could be something great?

4:56>> Yeah. And it's been and it exists in the specific those like the tiny moments and that yeah so that's that's been that's victories dudes boring boring victories. Um >> but but making trying to make it basically I've had to recalibrate my entire scale to how little of a thing can happen that makes my day how little of a thing can happen that makes my week. How little of a thing can make can make my month. And like how crazy would it be if a year from now I say 2025 was a great year. You know I woke up painfree for for probably like 70% of my days.

5:38That was a great year. [snorts] >> Like I got to have coffee with Ila in the morning once a week and that that filled me up for the whole week. Like if I can and I want to I I'm this I'm putting so anyone who's listening this like I'm putting a huge amount of my discretionary effort into this because it's my belief that right now what will what will prevent me from achieving my ultimate goals cuz that that [ __ ] is not gone. Um [laughter] um the thing that will achieve that will stop me from achieving my ultimate goals is um running out of steam because and and this may not be real for some people but like I don't need to do this. like I don't need to work this hard. Um, and so I have to make or I'd like to I'd prefer to make the ride more enjoyable. Real quick, I'm going to show you the exact 10stage road map from zero to 100 million plus that less than 1% of companies finish. I've now done multiple times. And so I can say with a lot of confidence that these are the stages as headcount increases that you need to get through. And I broke each of these down by eight different functions of the business.

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