Warum Alex nur auf Menschen hört, die ihm wirklich nahestehen

0:00When I die, people will be dividing up my assets, arguing over who gets what. There's going to be a caterer at my funeral. Some people won't make it because something came up and they got busy. And then the few people that are there are probably no one that I have in my life right now. And the fact that every single person that I have in my life might not even make it to the funeral to speak over me while I'm dead. It's like, why on earth would I listen to them while I'm alive? like they can't even make it to probably the single most important in you know personal day of someone's life is someone's funeral right the one time you can pay your last respect and they don't even do that and so it's like why would I give any weight to what these people are doing when they're not even going to be there on the day that matters most and 6 months later they're not even remember who I was and anybody who's had a death in their family recently knows that in the moment it's terrible for you and then six months later life moves on but the thing is is that we just never paint ourselves as the person who dies but to me that's incredibly freeing because then it's like if 6 months after I'm dead, no one is going to say my name, no one is going to remember what I did, then no one's going to then it doesn't matter what I do today. And I think that some people see it as really uh hopeless, but I see it as very hopeful because it means we have absolute freedom and we can do crazy [ __ ] like why have [ __ ] you money if you can't say [ __ ] you. Yeah, learning isn't a spectator sport. It comes from doing.

1:20Which means if you're not doing the stuff you consume every day, you're not learning. You're just procrastinating. Oo, this is fun. All right, so I'm going to define some terms [gasps] learning. Let me say this way. Intelligence means rate of learning. Like that's what that's how remember I talk about operationalizing words. So rate of learning is intelligence. So then you which means it's a rate not a not an attribute as an aside which then means you have to define learning.

1:51Learning means same condition, new behavior. So if I hold up a red card and then I slap you and then I hold a red card again and then you duck, you've learned. If you wake up every day and life shows you a red card and then you don't duck and you don't change, then you have learned nothing. And so if you go to a weekend and you go to a workshop and then the next day you go back and you do the exact same activities in the same conditions and you have no new behavior, it means you learned nothing.

2:21It also means you're stupid because it means your rate of learning is slow. So if someone is intelligent, I can show them the red card and on the first go they change their behavior. And so by defining intelligence that way and defining learning that way, it allowed me to start thinking, well, I want to be smart and this circumstance had this outcome last time. And so the next time I see this circumstance, this red card, I'm going to change my behavior. And so when we consume the information that you have on this podcast or whatever it is, there's probably a circumstance whether it's a conversation that you're supposed to have but you aren't having. It's a decision that you need to make but you're putting off. That's the red card.

2:59It comes up again and the question is whether you're going to get slapped or you're going to duck and that's whether you know whether you learned or not. And every time you get shown the red card and you do the same exact thing, you just prove to yourself that your rate of learning is slower. And so for me, I want to have that evidence that I learn quickly. And for me, that's why like people see me as ruthless, as you said, because I'm willing to cut relationships. Because if I think that I'm going to eventually cut the relationship, then why would I not cut it today? Because I might as might as well start enjoying the benefits of cutting that relationship as soon as humanly possible.