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0:00Why does saying my fault and taking that accountability begin to set someone down the path of making more money? And so if you think about if we think about success in terms of layers, like foundations, right? The the the base level, like when you're digging the building where you put the hole and you pour the concrete and the base of the entire thing is who is in power? Who is source?

0:24Because if it's anything but you in that base layer, all of the other things on top of them will topple down. It's It's a foundation of sand otherwise. You can't build on top of blaming other people. There's nothing that stands on it. You say like, "I want to learn sales, but I can't learn sales because I didn't get hugged enough as a kid and so I don't like people." And so as long as you keep holding on to that, you have sand as your foundation.

0:50But if you want to learn how to sell or you want to learn how to market or you want to learn how to do whatever, until you say, "Well, it's my fault that I don't know it and because of that, it's within my power to change it." So it's not sales books. It's not It's not reading offers. It's not It's not even your books. >> At the At the very beginning, you have to accept that, which is the first two words, my fault. My responsibility.

1:14All me. I am source. And then once you can accept that one thing, and what's crazy is that that one foundation is where 90% of people literally aren't. They're not there. They can't do it. The reason my girlfriend left me is because of this, not me. The reason I lost my job is cuz my my employer was a dick. My boss sucked. Whatever, the economy. Like But like it never serves you. Like give me one instance, one example, this is to anyone who's listening to this, one example of when you blame something else and it made you better.

1:51One. You can't find it because it's fundamentally not true. And so you cannot both desire to get better and also maintain blame. You have to pick. When did this really hit home for you? Was it when you lost money? No, when I was 19 years old, I had to write an essay about uh depression in an intro to psych class and I used to I don't talk about my other my mother very much, but I used to harp a lot I was an equal I I was an equal opportunity angry person. I was angry at everybody. Uh in other words, I blamed everyone.

2:24And so I blamed her for X, Y, and Z. And I remember having to write this essay on depression and you had to do it from someone else's perspective. And so you had to say, "How would they How would the environment and their upbringing, things like that, contribute to the outcomes in their life?" And so by writing the essay true or not, to be clear about my mother's upbringing and how hard she had as an immigrant coming here, getting beat up as a kid, getting beat up for not being able to speak the language, all that kind of stuff. And this is in the [ __ ] '50s. It's when like it was more accepted to beat up foreigners rather than let them in. Anyways, um so she had a tough time. And so it made sense and and when I framed it like that, I was like, you know, maybe she's actually a massive success given where she started.

3:17And so then I thought to myself now mind you, I still wasn't over it but it was in this process that the first thing that happened is when I went back home for fall break or winter break I remember she said something to me which would normally just like be the beginning of some big fight. You know, you get into these routines. Like I'll say this thing that we both hate and then we'll just get into a nice fight about it. And she said the trigger and I was just like I understand you. I'm sorry you went through the stuff you went through.

3:45And she just like looked completely shocked and then just like started bawling. And so I was like, "We're cool. Like, you don't anger me anymore. And I think for the most part since then, like, that's been more or less the dynamic that shifted. But leading into that was also the idea that all the relationships that I'd had that I'd blamed for not working because of the dynamic that I had with my mother, I was like, I am giving her this power over my love life.

4:19That's gross. And so, I was like, well, I I'd rather just say it's on me to change and not have my mom or parents at all involved in my relationships. And so, that was me taking it's her fault that I can't make these things work. I have commitment issues. I don't want to get close to people. I've been hurt before. Blah, blah, blah. To like, okay, well, let's take it to the natural extreme. Great. You're right.

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