Der YouTube-Player wird erst nach dem Klick geladen. Alternativ: Original direkt bei YouTube öffnen.
Alex Hormozis beste Lektionen ›
Was du mitnimmst
- Statt fauler Ausreden einfach ehrlich sagen, dass man zu einer Einladung keine Lust hat.
- Wer konsequent die Wahrheit sagt, macht sich das Leben mit anderen langfristig leichter.
- Wenn Komplimente immer ehrlich gemeint sind, glauben einem die Leute auch wirklich.
- Ehrlichkeit fühlt sich unangenehm an, weil sie soziale Normen bricht, macht das Denken aber einfacher.
Volltranskript
Das Transkript ist das englische Original mit Timecodes. Die deutsche Zusammenfassung steht oben. Sprecher werden automatisch zugeordnet.
0:00You know, it was a fun challenge for anyone who's listening. Try telling the truth in social settings. So, when someone invites you to a party, instead of coming up with a fake excuse that you both know is a fake excuse, just say I don't want to go. Really [ __ ] with you. >> [laughter]
0:23>> Um and if someone like says, "Hey, can you uh you know, help me move?" You're like, "I don't want to." It's very freeing because the thing is is that like their response is on them. And if I just I try and anchor myself to truth. If I just tell the truth and state the facts, I'm good with me. And if someone and I I asked them cuz I had an exchange recently where I said that. Um I say it often and now people who are around me are accustomed to the fact that I will just state the facts and tell the truth. Um I said, "Would you have preferred that I have lied to you?"
1:02And the guy just I was like, "So, you would prefer that I lie? I will not be associated with someone who would prefer that I lie to them cuz it makes my life difficult because then I'd have to lie, which then would breach one of my my values. So, in the future, you know, I I had someone who recently was like, "Hey, um hey, if you need anything, you know, let me know how I can help." I'll be like, "You don't mean that." Cuz if I actually need something, you will not help.
1:28And so, it's it's really uncomfortable for a lot of people because it it breaks a lot of social norms. But, I think that learn it's kind of like get the 100 no's is like being comfortable like it's just being comfortable with the truth. And the truth is one of the the scariest, ugliest things. You know, like, "Why don't you want to go on another date with me?" "I don't like you."
1:52You're not worthy. >> [laughter] >> But like people so uncomfortable with that and I think that the the I've just tried to shed [ __ ] as much as I could from my life and it's just made thinking a lot easier and also dealing with relationships a lot easier because you also by shedding social niceties when you do also state the truth when I say I think you [ __ ] killed that people know it [ __ ] carries weight because you don't just say that.
2:20And so I would say most of my team for example if I pay a compliment they know that I mean it. And I don't have to say like hey I like if I'm being honest I really you like I don't have to I don't like and it makes your words mean what you say. And I think that is like I I I aspire to be a man who when I say things people know that I mean them. And I think a way to do that is to stop saying things that I don't mean.
2:47And so I'm trying to cut as much of the words that are niceties and things that I don't mean and are nonsensical and [ __ ] that I've been taught to say in this social situation. When someone says that makes sense I say no it doesn't make any sense. People are like oh um because when when someone says make sense at the end of a sentence we are trained to just nod and say yeah yeah. Even though if you didn't even process it. But if I don't think it makes sense I say no I don't think it makes sense or no I don't understand.
3:15And again you don't want to look stupid. But looking stupid in the moment so that you can better understand something makes you not look stupid for the rest of your life when you actually understand it. And so I've just that has been a huge effort of mine is to make make words great again. Um Make words mean what they mean again. Yeah. And I and I and I really I I aspire to do that with my writing and I and especially in my social relationship because time is so valuable and we have so so little of it and I don't want to waste any of it pretending to be someone or say things that I don't mean. Real quick if you are a business owner and you are not growing as fast as you like, I'd like to give you a free gift. So, my team and I put together the $100 million scaling road map, which is basically 200 hours of us looking over all the portfolio companies we've had and what stages of growth they went through and more importantly, where they got stuck and how they got past it. And so we broke it in these 10 stages and we made this little kind of quiz thing where if you put in your business information, it'll tell you where you're at and the most important part for you, what to do for each of the functions of the business across product, marketing, sales, customer success, recruiting, IT, human resources and finance. And so, no matter what you're struggling with, someone else has already struggled with it and solved it. And so I'd like to give you this thing absolutely free. You can go to acquisition.com/roadmap, plug in your business information and if you want us to actually help you deconstruct the business and you're trying to scale, we'd love to help you out. On the thank you page, you can book a call with my team and we will look at the business, see if we can help and if we can, we'll invite you out to Vegas and we'll do this in person live.