The 3-Step Process to Win at Anything

0:00Yeah. Yeah. >> The three-step process of how to win. Number one, realize no one is coming to save you. Number two, take responsibility for your current position. Number three, be willing to sacrifice who you are for who you want to be. >> [sighs] [gasps] >> I think that those three is really all about power. Um in the realization so the probably in sequence probably the first one should come first which is you own everything.

0:31It's like okay if I own everything then you could still hope that someone saves you but it still relies on someone else to change your condition. And so it's like okay I own all these outcomes. Um I'm not going to rely on someone else to change my condition. But you're still there which means you have to take the third step which is that I have to sacrifice. I have to give up um something in order to get something else and I think I think where people actually stay stuck the longest in their careers from an entrepreneurship perspective or just from a personal development perspective is um the trades that we are unwilling to make. Like it's basically the desire to have everything at the same time. And and the easiest analogy I have is like it is totally reasonable to want to have a mountain view and to be on the beach and be walking distance from a Whole Foods. Um but you probably will not find a place that has all three of those because they are all at apparent contradictions or you know apparent odds and so they're but so so what happens is we just stay in this paralysis of indecision because we feel like all paths are settling and I think there's this movement or narrative around like never settle and things like that but people mistake never settle for never make trades. And so we have this obsession with optionality or optionality maxing.

1:48But options are only valuable when taken. And so when we never take the option which means we don't cash in the option that we have available. Um, like some options need to be taken and when they are taken other options disappear. Because just having maximum potential does not mean maximum reality. >> Because you need to commit. >> You have to commit, which is the elimination of alternatives. And so like there I mean show me anything that was worth doing that did not require commitment, which is an elimination of alternatives, a trade-off. Um, and so in the beginning of our lives when we're younger we are we are praised for maximizing our potential, right? How can we have as many colleges accept us? How can we have all the best grades? How can we have all the paths in front of us? But I think many people know people who are really successful earlier on by for maximizing potential but not realizing potential.

2:38>> Mhm. >> And I think the gap between the maximization of potential and the realization of potential is the commitments that we're willing to make, which is the trades, the elimination of the alternatives. When we have to start cashing those options in and realizing that some of them are are never going to come to fruition because we can only have one life and some of those trades are permanent. You can only not have a kid until you have a kid and then at that point you have a kid. Right, there's no going back, right? Um, you know, some decisions in life don't have refunds.

3:05Um, and and I I I think I think that is what I would say maybe in the earlier part of my my career, especially single guys cuz I think a lot of that's like really prevalent in social media right now, um, is just options maxing. Um, but we just even even in the attempt to options max you still close off other options, which is that like you will not have the benefits of let's say a committed marriage early on because you've kept your options open. Right, and like you will not have the benefits of like a very large business if you try to pursue five or don't pursue any because you want to not make commitments. And so I think that commitment is actually a really strong signal for maturation and growing up.

3:47>> Lots of mistakes were made by standing still. Like people think that inaction isn't a decision, but it is. >> Totally. I mean, your conditions change through inaction still. Like doors close. There are moments where you have opportunities where you have to act or they will go away. And so I think it's like being able to seize those opportunities and that means that you have to actively say no to something that you might want or might want a lot. And I think those are the traits that we I think I think being willing to make these trade-offs clearly and trade them for the things that you want more. Um is how people can progress through life and and get more of what they want.

4:24>> The pain of having to accept trade-offs holds a lot of people back. >> 100% and then they end up getting nothing. And I think that I I honestly think that is like at the crux of why so many people are not realizing any potential at all. Um it's because they are unwilling to make any trade and then make the biggest trade of all. >> Mhm. How do you think about overcoming that decision paralysis? Lots of good options in front of you. Spend a lot of time trying to maximize surface area of of available available options.

4:51And it's insane to say, but it's functionally true for humans that more options make you more miserable, not happier. >> Super true. And also we probably know someone I mean I can think of people off the top of my head that didn't have many options, but the option that they had was very clear. Like this guy is a super nerd and just loves coding and it was very clear, straight on. And so there was a lot of things that weren't available to him.

5:17Physically probably wasn't going to be the sports star or maybe even in super great shape. But like it was almost like that path was predetermined. But then when you fast forward it's not like they're less successful. It's that because they just already knew what they were going to do, they got to start pulling the future forward down the one path and start walking. And so there's again this this like fetishization of having options and seeing that as a proxy for status when the reality is that you they're all blank checks. You haven't cashed any of them in.

5:45>> Yeah. >> And so um, I think the original question ladders to like people get stuck because they don't know what they want. And I define what you want by what you're willing to sacrifice to get something. >> Take responsibility for your current position. What's that mean? >> Um, it's identifying yourself as source. And to be clear, it doesn't mean that like your position in reality is 100% because of you, but from a So, this is a valid This is a uh invalid but useful more useful way of going through life, which is that it absolutely might not be your fault, but it is still your problem.

6:21>> Mhm. Mhm. >> And since you are the only one who you can influence directly, then you are the one who is source. And because like you could still be correct in saying that like because I insert grievance, insert, you know, trauma, insert genetic predisposition, insert zip code I was born in, um, or language, or poverty level, or whatever it is. Um, all of those things could be true and yet you still have to take action as the only source that can change it. >> Mhm.

6:48No one's coming to save you. >> Yeah, which goes back to the first one. >> The interesting thing about no one is coming to save you also means no one is coming to stop you. >> Mhm. I think some people might. >> [laughter] >> I think actually as soon as you start, I think that the lobster or crab analogy in the bucket is is so true. I actually think that the the hardest I mean, I I think for I mean, for me again, like the hardest part of entrepreneurship was the first set of friends that you have to really push.

7:15Because once you do it the first time, you realize that you will still survive, you'll still make it through, you'll find new friends, but like in the first time, it's it's sacrificing everything you've known and loved for something that you've never experienced and hope will happen and have no idea if it actually will. So, the cost is known, the payoff isn't. And that is why I think it is the riskiest and why so many people struggle to make the jump. Yeah. >> If you like this video and you're a business owner who wants to break through your current revenue ceiling, I just sold every lesson from scaling 10 businesses past 10 million and three businesses past 100 million into a completely free scaling roadmap that I've used to go from zero to one, zero to 10, and zero to 100 plus. And so, you can click here and you can check it out.

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