Am I Too Emotional to Run My Business?

0:00Am I too emotional when it comes to a business because there's two things that I keep I notice with myself. One is it sounds pompous but it's I feel like people take my kindness for granted and so like I like to be the boss but I also like to be the older brother like to help and like coach in life and I feel like I get taken advantage of when it comes in the business aspect of things and then my other one is I keep I feel like I'm in a circle with trying to find the right teammates and I'm not finding the right teammates.

0:36Is this because of me or is it because my output like what what is it that would make a man not successful in this type of pattern? >> So I say those are two different things right off the bat. >> Both of my emotions. >> Yeah. So you the original question you asked was am I too emotional and I would say if it interferes with your goals in terms of how that emotion translates to behavior then I'd say yeah. >> Let me give you an example. There was two agents that are unbelievable like they represent the greatest in the field. Uh they were really really excited about me but I had 19 shows in America and they didn't show up to one of them.

1:11So my brain was like well if they can't make time aside in the city that they live in why would I feel like behind the scenes they would care about me? So I chose not to be with them. >> This is so much fun. So >> [laughter] >> if >> at me and I knew I was going to get worked. I wish I brought a pencil. >> If if if you knew if you found out that they were working around the clock trying to get you deals while you were in town and it was a massive deal.

1:41>> Yeah. >> Would you be okay with them missing your thing? >> If they were working for me behind the scenes? >> Yeah they're like working >> And that's why they didn't show up? >> Yeah. >> Yes. >> Okay. They don't show up either way. So it changes nothing about reality. It's only the narrative that we attach to it. Now, I'll finish the thought, which is just that I only care about the output.

2:04And so, if the agent is good, then they will bear fruit. >> Yeah. >> Whether he's able to do it with one phone call and he's on a vacation the other 364 days a year or not, would I rather have somebody who has good intentions who ends up destroying me or somebody who has bad intentions ends up making me? Who should I rather have? I'd rather have somebody who has bad intentions and ends up making me. Right?

2:30>> I think I'm I'm I'm I think I am immature in that sense. I I think I take things so personally because I don't know how to separate my brand and me. >> You care about intention. >> Yeah. >> I care zero about intention. Like I'll I'll give you a story that might make this real. So, friend of mine, um in the fitness space, uh was in a competition. Judge wasn't counting his reps. Told the judge he was going to kill him in the moment. Obviously, he wasn't. He was like, "I'm going to [ __ ] kill you."

2:59Like >> [laughter] >> he's like, "Count my reps, all right?" And he ended up getting like, you know, it became the black sheep of the the the whole space. Him getting becoming the black sheep of the whole space and that judge acting the way they did ended up making his career. And gave him this gigantic Overnight, he got like 100,000 followers. He went from nothing to 100,000. Then he was able to start a business off that cuz he was actually a very good competitor.

3:23Um and so, I say this because like I I used to spend a lot of cycles and this is not me in any way saying in any way self-aggrandizing. I'm just saying this is useful for me. Use it if you want. >> Yeah. I'm never I'm never getting offended, by the way, bro. >> We don't know someone's intentions. >> What do you mean by that? >> We have no idea. No, no, no. I was like, "Dude, I will I will always answer that question." People will think of like it like they throw it back at me. I'm like, "I will happily explain what I mean."

3:49>> No, no, no. I was just saying like I was offended. >> Yeah. So, we we never know why someone does what they do because they often don't know why what they do what they do. How many people go and take action all the time every day and you're like, "Why did you do that?" And they're like, "Huh, I don't know." You're like, "You don't know?" And so, then we somehow try and guess why someone else did something and then make a judgment on our actions towards that person because of something that they don't even know about themselves. I just care about what occurs as a result. So, if you work with this agent and fruit come from it, judge the fruit.

4:19If you work for 6 months and I haven't seen anything, I haven't seen anything. If the guy says, "Dude, I've been working around the clock." And you let's say you have evidence of him working around the clock, killing himself to try and get your deal, gets you nothing. Do you still keep him? >> Bro, I have. >> Right. And so, it's just it makes it it makes it much easier. >> Dude, I you just ripped my heart [laughter] out of my chest. I thought I would be a bad person if I didn't at least look at where their heart posture was pointed towards.

4:45>> That's a lot of words. Heart heart posture pointing towards. It's like, "What does that mean?" >> You going to mean? Like, think about it. Like, I see like I'm going to use Logan, not not using you as a real example. This is just like a fake example. If he's recording >> [laughter] >> If he's recording me, >> How did his fruit taste? >> His I'm never using that. >> [laughter] >> And by the way, you're going to have a bone to pick with Jesus. He's like, "Oh, you don't like my terms, huh? Don't believe in me. Don't believe in my words."

5:12Uh I think what my problem is is you're right, dude. I care too much about the like in my brain if he was holding the camera and he wasn't doing a good job, but I saw him sweating and trying, in my brain I'm be like, "It's okay. He's trying. His heart is at least there." But I will also measure the guy who's not here, his heart's not here, but his work is there. I get rid of that guy and I keep this guy. So, I'm in a really bad place. >> Yeah. Then you add up all the outputs and you get what you have.

5:39>> This is why I'm burnt out. >> Yeah. You have no help cuz you're judging people on the wrong metrics. To be fair, judging people on the on the wrong metric on the wrong metric business. You have other metrics. You have conflicting priorities right now. And so I think that you need You do whatever you want. If I were in a similar position, um I would erase the word intention from my vocabulary within the context of business and think of things in terms of return on assets and resources. And so fundamentally, the best entrepreneurs in the world are the best allocators of resources. They have time, money, energy, effort, et cetera.

6:15Very limited. Compared to all the resources in the world, what we have access to is nothing. It's so small. And so how how good we are of stewards, to use a a biblical, you know, analogy, how good we are of stewards is how how much we can multiply with what we're given, right? And so if you continue to water trees that bear no fruit, you will have a barren farm.

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