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- Dinge wie die eigene Herkunft oder Ausgangslage zu akzeptieren ist sinnvoll, weil man dagegen sowieso nicht ankommt.
- Sich mit dem aktuellen Stand zufriedenzugeben und zu glauben, man könne nicht besser werden, ist die größte Form von Scheitern.
- Man darf den bisherigen Einsatz akzeptieren, ohne das aktuelle Ergebnis als Endstation zu betrachten.
- Große Ziele bringen zwangsläufig harte Phasen mit sich, das gehört einfach dazu.
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0:00You accept outcomes and you accept circumstances. You accept the fact that you were dealt whatever hand you were dealt. You accept that you're 5'8. You accept that you're black. You accept that you're a woman. That's acceptance. You trying to rebel against that is you trying to fight the universe and the universe is going to win every time. But in terms of you framing acceptance as saying that I am comfortable with who I am and I cannot be better and I must be satisfied with that is the biggest embodiment of failure that I can imagine. is that it's almost it's almost it's almost egotistical to say that there's a difference between saying I am good enough and I am good.
0:40So you could say I am good enough for my current state based on the work that I've put into it but I could be better. And so like you can accept that the work that you have done has created the outcome that you've created but you do not need to accept that the outcome that you've created is the end all be all and the last outcome that you need to need to have. And so for me, like the only version of acceptance that I have is that I accept [laughter] that the version of myself that I want to be is is so far from who I am, that I have this massive discrepancy that I have to overcome. And then just breaking that down one step at a time and thinking, I don't I don't deserve to be that man, but I can still do the things that can create it. And it also means that I have to go through the circumstances that that would create that man. Which means that if I have unbelievable big dreams and big goals, then I have to go through hard times.
1:32It's like hate. The hard times are a requisite for success. And so if you're going through hard times right now, it means that you're on the path to success and it's not that you're on the wrong path. It's the feeling of being on the right path. And one of the things that I talk with with the CEOs in our portfolio company, and I'm I'm going to bring it back. one of our companies, they were struggling with growth, big company, and he was like, I honestly the issue that I have right now, he's like, I I don't know how many locations I can open every month. He's like, based on the cash flow that's coming in and out. And I was like, this is kind of like the Morpheus free. And I was like, I need you to freeze this moment. I was like, the feeling that you have right now is that you are missing a finance function. Is that they didn't have a good finance leader. And you're like, why is this relative to what we're talking about?
2:14I'll bring it back. which is that if it's the first time you're going through it, you can't recognize the science because you don't have anything to compare it to. And so hopefully listening to this podcast and listening to other people, not just, you know, not me and Chris, but like other people who are even even more successful, whatever, they can at least tell you what it tastes like. They can tell you what the room looks like. They can tell you what it the temperature feels like. They can tell you what it feels like in their body. So that when you are going through it, you can say, "Okay, I haven't been here before, but this sounds like Albuquerque. This sounds like a missing finance." And that's why having like and if you're in the early on stages and and and and you're going through the like you're going you're consuming the free content and this stuff it's like use this because the most valuable thing you can get is the context of what the experience feels like when you're going through it so someone can describe to you their experience so that you can relate it to your present and be like okay I'm on the right path.
3:01>> Yeah. It's the feeling of loneliness and uncertainty. Hang on. What if this what if this is a sign that I'm not supposed to be here? What if this is a sign that I'm doing it wrong? >> Right. and relinquishing that >> the if there was a big meta indicator that you're doing the right thing, doing what everyone isn't doing is already probably the big the single biggest indicator that you're doing the right thing. Like it's a it's the if if if I could wish nothing else on my child whenever I choose to have them in the future is that they have high agency which is that they are they make decisions independent from the opinions of other people. And when we hear words like authentic and original and things like that, it's because the person starts at square one and says, "Well, what do I want?" And then they start building from there. I had a conversation with one of my one of my teammates um who runs our our my LinkedIn and he said, "You know, Alex, it's easy for you to
3:52>> always always a really great start, >> great way to trigger >> to a [laughter] really good >> Please tell me more. Why do you [laughter] go on?" He said, "It's it's easy for you, Alex, to create this personal brand." He's like, "You have so many interesting things about you." He's like, "You dress a certain way. You act a certain way." And he said, "It's different than everyone else does, right?" And I said, …