The Average Person Will Keep You Average

0:00succeed. The average person will always try to keep you average. It makes sense that if you want to be extraordinary, you will do things that an ordinary person would see as extra. This is the really hard part that I had to come to terms with. It's that a lot of people want to see you fail because it justifies the risk that they chose not to take. We always have to think about listening to the people who are closest to our goals, not closest to us.

0:30>> We yearn for the approval of many people who don't have lives that we want. And so, if they have a specific life, then it means that that is what they think is valuable.

0:52And if we don't want what they have, then why would we value their weight on our decisions? >> Mhm. >> And so, it's like you have this They're like, "We have this mold that is my life. Your life no longer fits my mold." And you're like, "Right, I don't like the pot that that mold makes." And so, somehow, when people state the obvious, which is that you are living your life against my preferences, we somehow feel like that needs to change because when we're younger and growing up,

1:24>> We can't leave. >> Yeah, you can't leave and you do need to live your life according to your parents' preferences, your teachers' preferences, your classmates' preferences, your principal's preferences. Um but when you get older, you do have to break some mold and decide what mold you want. And in so doing, you will be against their preferences. And if the vast majority of people have a life that you don't want, then you're going to do things that the vast majority of people don't agree with. >> Mhm. I think the average American adult is obese, likely to be divorced, and has less than 1K in the bank. And doing what everybody else does sounds like a great idea, but it's actually a reliable route to a life that you're probably not looking for.

2:06>> This is I feel very passionately about this particular topic because it means that the path to exceptionalism is lonely. And loneliness is something that we decry as a society that there's something wrong with it, there's something bad, there's something wrong with you if many people disagree with you.

2:35But this is but success and pursuit of large endeavors is one of those few domains where everyone disagreeing with you is a signal that you are actually doing something different. Now, sometimes you doing something different is the wrong I think um Larry Ellison said this. He said uh if everyone thinks your idea is stupid, either they're right or you're right. And if you're right, then you're likely to make a lot of If you like this video and you're a business owner who wants to break through your current revenue ceiling, I distilled every lesson from scaling 10 businesses past 10 million and three businesses past 100 million into a completely free scaling road map that I've used to go from zero to one, zero to 10, and zero to 100 plus. And so you can click here and you can check it out.

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