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0:00Because I've heard from other people, people that are like larger, bigger, muscular, tall, like they other people will feel threatened by these people. So, they'll try to instigate some sort of fight cuz it's like an alpha mentality. You feel like you've been threatened by some massive dude. Do people come up to you and you feel like you've been you know, instigated in something? Not really. Never. Mhm. So, that that's just a farce. I think I don't give off a lot of like let's fight energy. You don't think so? No. Cuz I mean I mean if it'd be it'd be really hard because if someone's like "You man." I'd be like, "You're right."

0:33>> [laughter] >> Yeah, you just don't care. >> They'd be like they'd be like, "You're a piece of shit." I'm like, "Probably." Like I agree. This is where I want to be at. That level [laughter] of undeniable just confidence, just raw confidence, okay? I don't even think it's confidence. >> Yeah, I was like I appreciate that it's translated that way, but It's just not having anything that that bothers you. >> But comfort with oneself, right? Well, it's like if someone comments on a on a post and they're like, "Alex, you're an asshole." I'm like, "You're right."

1:02Okay. Cuz a lot of it's like I want to put a lot of effort into trying to like make them wrong. Like why? Like what A, I'm not going to change their mind at all anyways. But like the flip side is why is that such a bad thing? Like why is that not okay? Someone's like, "You're an asshole." I've been an [ __ ] many times in my life, I'm sure. I'm sure I have. And so like they're right. Okay. It's just like there's just not like I've noticed that I I can end a lot of these things like there's no endless loop when someone's like, "You should have done this this and this." I'm like, "You're right."

1:32So, what personality traits do you think are negative? Cuz you're saying being an [ __ ] necessarily is not a negative thing. Where I would say by definition it kind of is. It could be. Yeah, I mean it's just it's all because we think that's somehow good or bad. You know what I mean? And I think it's just like all of us have lots of different aspects to who we are and I think at different times in our lives we've been really impatient, we've been really patient, we've been really nice, we've been really mean. Like I've had many of those things and then if we're really going to say I have a character trait, it's like to what degree do I have that trait?

1:58Like it's not a binary. It's not like are you patient or not patient, how patient are you? Um And so for me, it's just like a lot of people get really upset around someone calling them a name because they think that having that label ascribed to them by this one individual somehow means something. And it's like I just don't think it means anything. I think that's because you have this security. Now, I could be projecting, but I would say most people if they are insulted, if the insult is valid to some capacity and picks at their insecurity, then they respond and they react and they deny and

2:33>> take it personally. >> Exactly. That's all it is. Right. It's just having that affect them. Yeah. >> But I think that's just being affected by outside influence. Like for you, you're very just self-assured. It's just like your reality is your reality. If someone else tells you otherwise, it doesn't matter to you. It's like someone telling you you have blue hair and you're like, "No, I don't." It's Right. >> Right. Well, to your point, this is a this is a really fun little side story. So, I was walking with Layla on the strip and some guy bumped into her or something. And he was like, "Watch yourself, skinny bitch."

3:05Like he said that to her. And she was like, "I mean, you think I'm skinny?" Um and so it's like she said it like half jokingly to me afterwards, not anything. She just We just obviously kept walking. Um but I thought it was such an interesting thing that he meant it as an insult. She chose to take it as a compliment. Which then meant that like all of the like these things that we get, you know, we toss at one another, it's like it's only because we choose to accept that it's an insult that it becomes insulting. Like I'm sure someone at some point in your life has said something that you that they intended to insult you with and you're like, "Oh, well, it's not it's not that bad. I'm actually kind of okay with that." It's like, "Well, if I'm if I can make that thing okay one time, then I can do that every time because it's literally just a choice on how I want to perceive it."

3:46So, you can obscure the intentions of other people to even if it's not necessarily the way that they intended it, right? I have no idea what their intention is. I have no way to know. Does it even matter? I don't even know. >> no idea I have no idea what their intention is. None. I don't know what their psychology is. I don't know what their affirmations are. I don't know what they say in the morning like I don't know if they wanted to hurt me or if they wanted to help me. Just doesn't like all I can know is like I can observe fact which is they said this. Okay.

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