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0:00If you want revenge for the bad things that have happened in your life, start with the version of you that hasn't lived up to your potential. Something a lot of us have the the battle of the other self that we're the the lesser version of our self that we're trying to kill every single day. And so, a lot of times we have this desire to point the blame finger externally, but wherever you point the finger of blame, power follows. And so, whoever I blame for the life I have is the person who I give all the power over my existence, over my circumstances. And so, it hurts, but if you turn the finger inwards and you start saying, "Huh, I don't like my life. The person that I need to punish or get back at is the real person who got me here, which is me."

0:52And so, you may be right that other people did certain things or you got dealt a bad hand. It also doesn't matter because the only thing that you can control is obviously the actions that you take. And the only person who's in control of that is you. And so, the revenge porn is thinking about what the version of you who got you here did and then acting in the exact opposite of that as many times as you possibly can.

1:25And the pain that you feel by rejecting the thing that you used to do that got you into this bad circumstance, that's the real revenge. It's kind of like uh the stoic folk, the dichotomy of control, but it's just taking all of that and just lumping it all on you. Yeah, it's it's you know, I mean, this is kind of the the pushback against victimhood culture that externalizing the locus of control, it is the fault of the politics or the economy or it's the state of the dollar or it's the patriarchy or it's whatever. He goes, "Hey, look, you will get 100x, 1,000x your returns placing your efforts to try and change those things on you as opposed to on the world. Like, you I think basically the best way to move through the world is to see your entire surroundings as immutable and you as mutable. You're the only mutable thing in the entire world.

2:23You're the only thing that can change. Everybody else, people, opinions, places, economy, politicians, policies, all of that, none of that's going to change. You, you can change. That's it. And then maybe some of the other stuff does, and that'd be great. It's a really interesting concept. So, do we accept the world and change ourselves, or do we change the world and accept ourselves?

2:50And so, it's a really interesting dichotomy when you ask the question, because on cuz both of those sound right. You're like, "I should accept myself and change the world." But on the other hand, you're like, "Wait, no, I should accept the [laughter] world and change myself." >> Yeah. And so, yeah, cuz they're both pithy. >> [laughter] >> Yeah. >> porn. >> Right. And so, um I think all of it comes down comes down to when you change yourself, you will change the world because you'll change how you see it.

3:25I think as well when it comes to accepting yourself, do you want to accept you? Do you want to accept a version of you that you shouldn't accept? One that you're not proud of, one that doesn't live up to their word, one whose thoughts, actions, and uh intentions aren't aligned fully. You go, "Well, I mean, I I can, but I don't particularly feel good about that. That feels like the higher version of me, the potential version of me that I want to live up to is I'm sort of derogating them, that it it's this isn't really the tribute to them that it should be.

3:55And yeah, that's why the self-acceptance movement that's why people feel icky about it. People feel icky about the self-acceptance movement because they know that people are accepting a version of themselves which is falling short from what it could be. I would say that they're not accepting themselves in saying that they accept themselves. So, if I say is there a version of yourself that's better than you are right now?

4:17And most people hopefully would say yes. It's like great, accept that person. And I think that to me when we talk about the authenticity, accepting yourself is accepting the ideal that we can live up to. And that's that is what we accept, not the shitty version of that that we are today. And I think that marries both sides of the argument. Real quick, if you're a business owner and you're not growing as fast as you'd like, I'd like to give you a free gift. So, my team and I put together the $100 million scaling roadmap, which is basically 200 hours of us looking over all the portfolio companies we've had and what stages of growth they went through and more importantly where they got stuck and how they got past it. And so we broke it in these 10 stages and we made this little kind of quiz thing where if you put in your business information, it'll tell you where you're at and the most important part for you, what to do for each of functions of the business across product, marketing, sales, customer success, recruiting, IT, human resources, and finance. And so no matter what you're struggling with, someone else has already struggled with it and solved it. And so I'd like to give you this thing absolutely free. You can go to acquisition.com/roadmap, plug in your business information, and if you want us to actually help you deconstruct the business and you're trying to scale, we'd love to help you out. On the thank you page you can just book a call with my team and we will look at the business, see if we can help, and if we can, we'll invite you out to Vegas and we'll do this in person live.