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0:00You will die months later. No one will care. And so why care about what they think so much when they care so little about what you do. Like take the risk, right? Shake off the losses. Shake them off because in the end, you live for the story only you can tell to the only person who was there with you the entire time, which is you. Might as well make it epic because you're the you're literally the story writer and the story listener, the story consumer. We're born alone and we die alone. Even if other people captured your entire life, they still don't know what was going on in your head. They don't know your intentions. They don't know what you were thinking through at every given moment. Only you do that. That's why being able to over time, in my opinion, be the judge, jury, executioner of your own faith and your own judgment is one of the most valuable things you can do because you're the only person who can say good job. You might win in some circumstances and not have tried. To me that's a loss because you know you could have let you could have put more in. You didn't empty the tank, right? You left some on the field. The other extreme if you followed a logical thought path and you did you moved mountains to try and accomplish something and if you actually had exhausted every possible path that you could think of truly beyond costs that were no that were not worth the price of whatever you were trying to get. You exhausted all the the paths that were worth it and you don't get it.

1:20Other people may have said that you lost, but you know there's nothing else you could have done. And so you can still say good job because of the effort that you chose to put in. I have a few frameworks for zooming out that I think may help you. So one of my favorites is the frame of the veteran, which is okay, something bad happens. If it happened a thousand times in a row, how would I feel about it the thousandth time? Well, I probably be like, well, that's just how things are. And it would no longer bother me. And so if it no longer bothers me then, then it means it's a choice for it to bother me now. So I might as well choose not to have it bother me today. The second frame is cosmic relevance, which is basically zooming out so far that you realize that we're just a tiny little marble in a galaxy. And you know, humans have only been alive for this tiny sliver of time throughout the billions of years. And the likelihood that your boss saying something mean or some person on the internet saying something snide or someone making a video, just hating on you or some parents not approving of your current life path or somebody trying to discredit you for not being legit does not matter. And to the third one, this is a really good one for gratitude is all considered the grandfather frame, which is basically you zoom all the way to the to the future. You're 85 years old. So you're an old man, right? You've been, you know, you're in pain. Everything hurts.

2:40You don't have the energy you used to. You're slashing over and you're, you know, you you're counting down your days. And then you imagine yourself waking up in whatever age body you have right now and you turn to your, you know, your right or your left and you see your wife and you're like, man, she's so young. I couldn't can't believe she's so young right now. You look out the window and you're like, oh man, this is before they developed this whole area and we had all these highrises. And then you like you get out of bed and you're like, oh man, like I'm not in pain, you know? And you wake up and you're like, you know, I don't feel like foggy. I feel like my memor is sharp. I like I'm acute. I know what I'm going to do. and you're like, "Wow, this is amazing." And the thing is is like nothing good has even happened yet because life just gets so much harder as you get older. You can imagine how like gratitude comes from imagining a terrible thing and then removing that thing that was terrible.

3:26That is gratitude. Like how do you operationalize gratitude? Imagine something terrible and then remember that that terrible thing has not occurred. That's gratitude.