Warum der Mehrheit folgen dich nicht weiterbringt

0:00Sean Puri's got this thing where he says, "Don't follow what most people do because you don't want the results that most people get. The average person is obese, likely to be divorced, and has less than 1K in the bank. It feels safe to do what everyone else is doing, but it's actually a terrible decision. >> It's like the best way to guarantee to not have the life that you want is to do what everyone else is doing. Unless you want what everyone else has with no one, which no one does."

0:23[laughter] >> Yeah. It's um being able to think for yourself and and treating it like a muscle I think is a smart way to consider it because in the beginning it's really really hard. >> You've been resting on societal norms and the way you've dealt with past trauma and your parents expectations and what all of your friends do and what's accepted and all of this stuff for so long that when it first comes to you needing to step on that muscle, it's like trying to move your ears. Like all humans have got muscles that can move their ears, but because no one works it as a child, they just atrophy away.

0:57>> Uh, and this is the ear muscle of personal growth. >> I think I had a lot of practice with it because I had a so like a lot of people have many voices that they hear that they feel are judging them, right? They have their friends, they have their uncle, they have their siblings, they have their cousins, co-workers, whatever. I think I had just one voice that I heard really loudly and I was trying I was I was talking to one of our one of our employees the other day and I was trying to put it in perspective younger guy and I was like I imagine how much you care about your mother's opinion and your father's opinion and your s and all of those other people. I was like and now imagine that there's literally only one because I had no siblings. I basically had no mother. I had just a father and so like his approval was literally everything.

1:46and he disapproved of the path that I wanted to take in my life. And so I think a lot of these mental faculties or these little frameworks or these isms just came from like how can I combat this incredibly booming voice in the background because like when I look at what I was doing at the time like I was a consultant. I you know I graduated in three years. I took the consulting job. I did all the things but the craziest thing was that the moment that my father was most proud of me and he approved of my life the most was when I was the saddest. And so that's when I was like, maybe his approval isn't the right way to feel good about life. And so that that started basically the six-month journey of from when I decided that I wanted to change my life till when I changed it. And I think that like as you become more able or more potent or higher agency, that timeline between when you decide you want to do something and when you actually do it just continues to compress, right? Like now if I want to change something, I'm like, let's change it. Like done. I like I we walk out of a thing. I'm like, we're never going to do that podcast again. I don't want to talk to this person again or whatever it is, right? Whereas before it's like, okay, I have to I have to sleep on it. I have to really think about it and like how am I going to It's like why do I care about how I'm going to say it? This is what it is. Done. And it's just like in that timeline is compressed. But the hardest one for me, like the first one was by far the hardest and every one since then. The nice thing is that no matter how difficult your circumstance is, if you have like the bigger the wall that you have to get through is as soon as you get past that one big wall, you then can use that wall as the evidence for why you can jump over the next wall because that will be the biggest one. And so like after I did quit my job and left my house and and left Baltimore and didn't tell my dad until I was across the country because I was so afraid like people think of me as like some big alpha whatever. I was like, I was such I was so afraid of my father's disapproval that I didn't tell him until I physically left the state. Like like I'm not like think about that. Like I wasn't even just one state over. I was like five states over. And then I was like, "Hey, by the way, I'm going to California." And he was like, "Well, let come over. We'll talk about it." And I was like, "I'm in Ohio already."

3:41[laughter] >> And then he, you know, then obviously he had a different reaction. But like, >> but then after that it was like, "What do I have to do now?" It's like, "Oh, I got to I got to sell strangers." And I was like, I told my dad I didn't want to do what he wanted. How hard could this be? And so like it it then becomes this one huge proof point. So the bigger the the dragon is that you have to slay, the more evidence you have that you can slay the next dragon. And I think that is if there's ever been a good point for why getting over the one first hard one is so hard is that it will then give you the reinforcement that you can do whatever you need to do next.

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