Unmade Decisions Can Last Forever

0:00There's an interesting thing because people like me and you make business content and we talk about entrepreneurship a lot. Um I I often wonder if we're leading some people astray in the context of some people actually should take that advice. Some people shouldn't become entrepreneurs. Um and how does one know if entrepreneurship in its broad definition is for them or not? Or like working in a company, having, you know, having a great job is for them. It's funny, we were I was doing this show once and I said to the producer who was just off camera, I said, um "Do you think I'm happy?" This is This is someone who gets to see see me for 6 or 7 years behind the scenes every day since we were on my kitchen table. He's been there with me every corner of the world, the the best and the worst of times. I went, "Do you think I'm happy?"

0:40He went, "Yes." He said it quickly. And then he And then I said, "Would you want my life?" And he he couldn't have said no more violently. So much so that it was almost defensive. He was like, "You're happy." And then I went, "Do you want my Would you like my life?" He goes, "No." >> [laughter] >> AND HE WAS LIKE And And he was like laughing. He would not want my life, but at the same time thinks and believes, having seen me behind the scenes for 7 years, that I'm happy. And in there I think you have something, which is the the sort of subjectivity of of of journey. Like, is this your journey? How does one know, listening to this now, if they should be an entrepreneur or not?

1:13>> So, I'll give a couple of frames cuz decision-making is what probably both do with a lot of our time. So, one is what's the goal? What do I want to have happen? >> Everyone says the same things here. They say, you know, I want freedom to make my decisions. I want, you know, my financial freedom. >> have to be specific. And so, just like fear only exists in the specific, goals have to exist in the specific in order for them to be real. And for you to make accurate decisions. And this is why I'm so obsessive about language and like observables and things like that. So, what is One is what do I What do I actually want to have happen?

1:41And then number two, what is that change about my actual daily life? >> On this first point, funnily enough, I said to you, "Freedom." >> Mhm. >> And then I immediately realized that the least free person in the company >> [laughter] >> Dude, this gets Okay, this is great. So, I think about this. It's the freedom choose. >> Mhm. >> But I think people stop at freedom. There's this almost fetishization of independence and keeping your options open and and options maximizing, right?

2:07For your life. But all of the best parts of life come on the other side of exercising an option and and walking through a door. But in so doing leaving the other doors that you could have walked through behind. And so the secret to getting a life you want is making a commitment. But you will not get all lives you want. And so at some point you have to sit at the precipice and you have to make a trade. And if you say, "I want this more than something else."

2:33It means I know I'm not going to get this. And I choose to say that I want this more. And I think this is where people just sit at the crossroads. And that is what takes the majority of time. Not just getting into business, but also when you're in business. People will sit at the crossroads of like, "What type of company do I want to build? What type of product? And what type what what type of business do I want?" And we sit there and I when I see people get stuck, it's almost always unmade decisions. Cuz unmade decisions can last forever. >> Mhm.

2:59>> Whereas if you're in if you're in a trial loop of feedback, feedback, feedback, like you'll figure it out. Like you'll move. >> Mhm. >> But if you're in an unmade decision, it can sit there forever. And that's that's like the freedom to choose. We have to choose.