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- Die Formel 'Wenn X passiert, bin ich glücklich' funktioniert in der Praxis nicht.
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0:00Because we all know the happiness formula which is um when this happens I'll be happy, right? When X I'll be happy or if X I'll be happy. Um and so we you know I I've set up that equation. I'm sure I know you've never set up this equation for yourself in your life, but you know I I've set that up and I think that just serves as as my my biggest reminder. Um but it's also why I probably am a pretty existential nihilist overall. Um because I I've had so much evidence that none of those things quote brought me joy, but the things that we were talking earlier about anticipation being kind of the hot button on pleasure.
0:34>> Y >> I feel like the hot button on joy for me is what I'm doing right now. So like I haven't done the event yet, right? I haven't I haven't given the presentation, but when I'm in the rocky cut scene of like of beating I'm not going to say beating the cow carcass. I'll say it that way. Um I'm trying to avoid certain words. Anyways, um that when I'm when I'm when I'm when I'm putting that work in and doing the reps, like that's when I'm actually my most in flow and enjoying myself the most. And so it's actually a lie that I've been telling myself that like once the presentation goes well, I'll feel good because in some ways now I feel like when the presentation happens, I'll be disappointed because I won't get to do this anymore. I'll have to find something else to pick as a target so that I can get back into my rocky cut scene. And so I think that that that has taken some time and I've gotten better at it. I really do think I've gotten a lot better at it. Um at least recognizing because the more the more times I've I've had W's and then realized that right afterwards I felt nothing, I had to think back of like what are the things that I enjoyed most in my life? And it's always in pursuit.
1:39And I'm like well then why don't I set something really big really far so I can be in pursuit for the longest period of time possible. And that's where I think a lot of people from the outside, you know, they cast their expectations of life onto me and say, "I wouldn't live my life that way. You're always you're always working. You're always doing these things." But it's like, I'm actually always spending my time in pursuit because in pursuit is my button for enjoyment.
2:02>> Well, what about if it wasn't achieving the thing at the end? If the reason that you set yourself goals is exclusively to motivate yourself to enjoy the route toward those goals. And I know that it's not the destination, it's the journey is kind of cliche. And I think this is is slightly subtly different, which is that it's actually about setting the destination. Without the destination, you wouldn't do the journey. Yeah.
2:30>> Like the way that you set goals and then achieve them and the the dopamine and the the trigger that you get. >> Um I often think about the balance between like serotonin Chris and dopamine Chris. And I >> I don't know the difference between those. Well, it's like am I feeling sort of lovey and present and and and wanting to connect with people or am I driving toward a thing because I have a goal that's in front of me and I'm very sort of dopamine Chris a [laughter] lot of the time. Um but I genuinely think that
2:56>> if you remind yourself >> these are the golden years. >> Yeah. >> Like this right now. >> Yeah. >> This when you look back >> these will be the golden years, right? When I had my health, I had my full mental capacity. I had control of my bladder. I had all of the money that I needed to do the things that I wanted to crush it with my friends to fly around America and film these podcasts or to launch this book that I spend all of this time on. And you can even see it in the micro. You can even see it when you look back on stuff that you've done in your day-to-day business or when you what you did at university.
3:31>> What were the times that you enjoyed? Was it when success success came to you easily? Or was it when you stayed up and ordered dominoes because you had that project that needed to be in at 6:00 in the morning and you ran an all nighter and and John slept under the the table and and everybody ordered monsters and then the next morning we got it done. >> What was good about that? Was it when you submitted it or was it the dominoes and the 3:00 a.m. sleep under the table? Because I'm pretty sure it's that.