"My Girlfriend Is Annoyed I Work So Much"

0:00I'm 22. My girlfriend is annoyed that I'm working so much. It's making me feel like I have to choose between my business and her. What's the trick to make them both coexist? >> Kill one of them. >> [laughter] >> The business Um I think like I don't know if there's a trick. Yeah, I don't know if there's a trick. So, I'll say like two two different frames on this. So, one is there's a selection thing, which is like I found someone who when I started our relationship, I was like, I work all the time and you have to be cool with that. And then it turned out Leila was like, well, I have to work a lot, too. And then I was like, well, maybe we can work together. And that's what basically started our journey together. I'm not saying that's right for everyone. I'm saying that was right for us. Um The other side of it is um basically making agreements. Like they're like this will be a perpetual problem for you. So, it's probably it is unlikely that you will solve it. And you know, this is from Gottman, the uh relationship people. 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual. They are unsolvable. Meaning they're two different preferences that sit uh in contrast to one another. And so, uh you might have a minimum amount of work that is required. Uh and I'll actually give you one from Sam Ovens from from School that he had with or has currently with his wife. Um She obviously wants him to be home because she loves him and they have kids and all that. He also knows that he needs to work 12 hours per day uh to get School to be the number one platform in the world for communities.

1:23And so, the way they reconciled that was for her, she's like, I really want you to be home for dinner every night. And so, dinner is 6:00. And so, 6:00 onwards, he's at home. He's having, you know, dinner with the kids, etc. And so, uh their agreement is functionally uh as long as he's home at 6:00 uh and he's completely present during that time period, and he takes off Sundays, they're fine. And so, he works from 6:00 to 6:00 and then takes evenings off. And then on Sunday, he's fully there with the kids. And I think every 12 weeks, they take a vacation together. And so, that is their agreement. And so, I think you just have to come to an agreement. And then once you make the agreement, you both stick to those terms. If you cannot come to an agreement that is a compromise that that meets both of your minimum requirements, then it might mean that your goals are misaligned and it might not make sense long-term. If you like this video and you're business owner who wants to break through your current revenue ceiling, I distill every lesson from scaling 10 businesses past 10 million and three businesses past 100 million into a completely free scaling roadmap that I've used to go from zero to one, zero to 10, and zero to 100 plus. And so you can click here and you can check it out.

2:17Again, absolutely free. And since you're business owner, I appreciate you and enjoy.