Die Geschichte hinter Alex und Leilas erstem Treffen

0:00You fell in business love with Layla first before you fell in love love. What do you mean by that? Well, I liked her mind first. Yeah. Um I mean I pitched her on working for me the first time we met. And I was like, "Hey, this might not work out, but like you should totally work for me and we can make a bunch of money together." And um I said like plain black and white, "I'll pay you twice as much as you're currently making. So, but still look at the offer independent of me. Like it should make sense for you." Um and so obviously she said no for the first 30 days because I asked her every day. Um and she said no, but then when I did the turnaround business, launched three gyms, came back with a big stack of money, um she was like, "Oh, so this works?" And I was like, "Yeah." And the I mean the first question she actually asked me after we processed all the money cuz I did it together to a little bit of flex.

0:42>> [snorts] >> We processed like 120 grand in like 45 minutes and she was like, and I mean I'm 27, she's 23. She was like, "Whoa." Um she's like, "Is this legal?" >> Yeah. >> [laughter] >> And your your first couple of dates were you guys just like working at Starbucks or something? >> working together. Yeah. I mean I didn't uh it was weird because like I just I just like liked hanging with her. Like I just liked her around. Yeah. And that was uh like whenever I had the choice of like me being alone and me being with Layla, I just like always wanted to be with her and she kind of had the same thing. And so, but we didn't have like romance chemically love until much later.

1:17>> Yeah. Um but I got her to quit her job and fly out with me within like 6 weeks. And even when you guys got married, you I think you like you weren't in love love yet, right? Like what Like at what point did you say she's going to be the one, but I we're not in love love yet? Um I'd say that we like really got into like love love in December of '19. Okay. >> So, that was 2 years, 2 and 1/2 years after we got married. Okay. And that was because we made a conscious decision. Um we were actually both pretty miserable.

1:43Um mostly cuz we were and I was really up front about this and we both agreed. I said, "Listen, here's what Here are the priorities." I was like, "Business and then us. We got to feed the business and the business feeds us. That's how this works." And in December of '19, um we were both like we had this like deep conversation where she's like, "I'm just like not happy with this." And I was like, "Me neither." And so, we're like, "I think we I think our premise is wrong." And so we said, "Well, what if we just like made marriage the priority and then the business would flow from that?"

2:12>> Yeah. And so that's when we flipped everything and um it's actually been great since then. Um and again, it was fine. It wasn't like, you know, combative. It was just It's just much better. Yeah. And I think you said this before, it's love is something that you decide to work on. It's not It's like a active thing. It's not passive. >> I also think there's a lot of different versions of relationships. Like if you think about your friendships like like your friendships with like seven different dudes that you know, Yeah. you probably have like the the relationship is different with all of them. And so I think like love is a really general word and we're just more limited by like our vocabulary than anything else. Like I think Layla and I have a very different love than most people who are married and together, but I would say that it is absolutely founded in respect. Yeah.

2:51>> And um that to me was probably the most [clears throat] unique aspect of my relationship with her was that I I just respected her. Um and she respects me. And I would say until that point I probably had the more traditional relationships that were just like more lovey-dovey, more chemically, more romance, etc. Um but the thing is is like I'm a really extreme person. And so if someone doesn't like what I like, like they're not going to see me very much. And if they do and if they are that way, anytime I do something, it's going to feel like I'm doing them a favor.

3:22And that that tally board of like who's [snorts] doing who a favor is would get way out of whack really fast and then I start resenting them because I'm like, "I want to do this other thing and it's not that I don't love you. I just want to work and that's what I want to do cuz and so the fact that she just like the biggest thing that made me really love Layla was just that she has never tried to change me. Yeah. Like she just It was pure acceptance on "This is Alex. Like I'm not going to get him to dress a certain way. I'm not going to get him to behave a certain way, talk like I'm not going to ask him to nothing. She just is like, 'You do you and I will do me next to you and as long as we grow in where we're going, we'll get there and have a good time."

4:03And that's what >> me this Neil told me this actually. It's like I was like, "So why did you decide that his wife is the one, right? Michelle." >> Yeah. And he's like, "She just let me be me." Yeah. And and like he you know, we've dated, right? I've seen you know, people come and go, but um and then now, you know, he's he's hounding me about kids all the time, right? He's like, "You got to get married to have kids, right?" He's lecturing everyone. Um last week I might think he was lecturing Sayed the WordPress king.

4:29>> he's like, "You need to have more kids." blah blah blah. But where I'm going with this is do you think kids will be on the horizon for you? >> I mean I think it's possible. >> change things. >> I think it's possible. I mean Layla's still young. Like I mean we have time. I mean you're still young. Yeah, I mean right. Yeah, I'm still But like I'm not the limiter. You know what I mean for for youth in terms of procreation. Yeah. Um but yeah, I mean she's still young and if we we're cool either way. So if it happened like if she got pregnant tomorrow, like we'd have to get Yeah, I mean this is like this is all like conjecture at the end of the day because like you guys adapted your marriage a little bit and then it might adapt at the next level. It's all levels, right?

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