Die 5-am-Tag-Regel, um präsenter zu sein

0:00You know, you look at somebody that's a master meditator or you set yourself high bars for what it means to be mindful and you realize that you can be present with a sip of a coffee. Okay, I can be present with this one sip of a coffee and then it like sand in your hands or like trying to remember a dream, it just evaporates, right? >> Okay. Well, what if your goal was just to try and get five of those a day? >> Yeah. >> What if that was it? What if being mindful was just five moments when you allow yourself to be where your feet are? Where your feet are underneath you?

0:32>> And then what if you tried to just string like two of those together five times a day like just this first sip and then as I put it down the view out of the window. Oh my god. Like that's two things in one and then I can do that five times. And it it if I'd asked him, I would have said really is the path to just increase the frequency of the times that you are where your feet are underneath you. >> Uh and one other cue that I love that I got from an embodiment coach is the times when you see in your peripheral vision, you're looking and the way that our vision actually works, you're focused so heavily on what's directly in front of you. If there's ever a time when you see what's out here,

1:11>> you realize that you it's impossible to see all of that and not be in the present moment because you've naturally just opened yourself up. And I love that cue. So during the times when I'm doing things like that Sam episode, I'm like the next question and there's millions of people watching and all this stuff and there's this guy in front of me and he's super smart or whatever. [sighs] This is [ __ ] cool. Just that one moment and that when I look back on that episode, that's what I enjoyed. That's what I enjoyed about it. So, I think that being where your feet are underneath you and allowing yourself to open up and stringing those together largely allows you to enjoy being whilst you're in the process of becoming.

1:50It's also interesting those moments you can capture a moment independent from your surroundings because a lot of times those moments you're not thinking about the goal that you have the meeting that you have the the prep that you have to do for some talk or some podcast or whatever it is and I can't remember where I heard this but they were talking about Gladiator the movie and the film opens with this like little bird on a bow right with like the the leaves and whatnot and then they zoom out from that little bird on the on the on the bow and it's this disgusting war scene, right? And so it's kind of like micro macro micro um of how no matter how tough whatever the moment that you're going through is if you can just take a picture of the corner of the room and look at the beauty in that right of being present in that moment even if it's the suffering right like you get punched and you're spitting blood out but it's like this moment that you capture then all of a sudden like everything fades away and you are present and so it can take this what would be a brutal war scene of death and dismemberment. And the thing that makes it memorable is the zooming in on a detail.

3:05>> And so it's like if we're going if you feel like you're going through life too fast, it's like just look for a detail. >> Whenever I wanted to try and get myself back into the present, I used to have brain fog a lot in my 20ies really. >> And maybe not brain fog, maybe just the clarity of my thoughts now is so much better than it used to be. I don't [ __ ] know. Maybe I was hung over. Yeah, [laughter] I got that. That was a big Maybe it was just the drugs. I don't know. Um, but one of the things I used to I used to have this I still have this BMW sat on my drive with a perforated steering wheel and I remember that if I ran my thumbs across the steering wheel and I really felt the perforation, really felt it or I do it with a leaf.

3:39I'd pick a leaf up and I'd really feel the sensation of the leaf. >> I couldn't think about anything else. You can only have one thought at one time. You cannot think two things, right? You have a super computer inside of your head and it's got one megabyte of RAM. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> So, just think the one thought. We'll get back to talking to Alex in one minute, but first I need to tell you about Surf SharkVPN. If you're browsing the internet without a VPN, it's like dancing in a muddy field without any shoes on. You can do it, but it's not good for you. If you're using a public Wi-Fi network, the internet admin can see all of the data going back and forth between yourself and the internet. All of this is protected with Surf SharkVPN.

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