Warum Alex das Wort Mindset nicht mag

0:00It's like I hate the term mindset. I think it sucks. I think people have all this mythology around it. They're like these things get stored in your body and and there's these synchronicities and frequencies and vibrations and manifestation. It's like dude, just define what you're talking about like what are you saying? And whenever whenever people say those things, I'm going to I'm going to go a little amorphous and I'm going to get back to business. All right? So, don't worry. Give it two minutes. Two minutes and we're going to hit business again. All right? This is my last point.

0:26um when you begin to see language as behavior. So let me explain what that means. If I say hi, then I'm soliciting a response from someone, the the sound hi, then they have been reinforced for saying hi back or what's up, right? And so what happens is, for example, I'll give you a different version of this. If I begin to cry, then I'm going to solicit a certain type of response from people around me.

0:59And this is where people start to create vicious cycles. Let me give you an example of one. This is one that I realized with with Ila, my wife. So, I'll just be real with you. So, if I cries in the earlier part of our relationship, well, for many years, I'll be real with you. Many years when Ila would cry, I would I would try and comfort. And if she was still crying, I would stay quiet because I didn't know what to do. And she would still cry. And then I would get angry and then she would stop crying. And so what ended up happening is that I ended up being reinforced for getting angry when she was sad. And so when she would cry, I would get angry and then she would stop crying because I learned to get not not consciously, right? But I learned to get Ila to stop crying, get upset.

1:43And so then Ila was like, "Why do I want to be upset around you because you only get angry with me?" And then I had to learn more about behavior. And then I was like, "Oh, wow. I learned the wrong lesson here. And I bring this up to say that the words we say often times we don't even mean the words because we've never defined the words, but we say the words because of how other people respond when we say them. And so if you're in a community of people, for example, that say manifestation, frequency, synchronicities, all this wild [ __ ] right? You say these things, these people agree with you and say you are one of us. You are accepted. We love you. Then of course you're going to believe those words. You just haven't defined them. But you love the reaction you get when you say them. And so when you see these words as behavior, you begin to do that behavior more when good things happen. And so this is why for any of you obviously you guys have, you know, maybe you followed followed my stuff for a little bit. Um this is why I take definitions so seriously like words matter like what are we talking about, right? Which is why the first step of the three steps I have when I'm breaking down any problem is what does this mean?

2:41How do we know? And why does it matter? And so I would encourage you that's logic, evidence, utility, by the way. What does it mean? How do you know?