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0:00What practical steps do you take to reverse negative thoughts? >> Well, I would say first step is why is it negative? Yeah, >> like why am I judging this thought? And that usually diffuses 99% of them. Um, but if it's a thought that I don't think serves me, then I'd be like, is there a thought that's alternative to this? Is there a reality in which this thought could be a good thought? So, it's reframing the thought. Um, then there's the frame of the veteran, which is if this bad thing happened a thousand times in a row, I still think it's bad, which is habituation. Um, and so I think it's just useful to have like multiple cards you can flip through, like a fourth frame that I'll go through is like, okay, well, um, I'm a slightly advanced ape on a little blue marble and in three generations, everyone who knows me will be dead and this problem is probably not going to be meaningful. And so it's just like how many different, you know, reframes do I need in order to make this irrelevant? But I think cosmic irrelevance is probably the most powerful one that I shift to most frequently, which is just like, oh right, we're, you know, orbiting the sun, which is orbiting a galaxy, which is orbiting another thing. And I'm like, okay, this doesn't matter. Like by the time the sun, you know, like the the light from the other galaxy comes to us is like I will be dead many times over. That's just for the time for the light to get here. And so just like it just it just minimizes a lot of the the quote negative thoughts. But you know I I I get I get I get asked a lot of questions and I get invited on podcasts like this like I have um you know some sort of answer. Uh, and I I just I don't I've just had like I think if we're being like super real, like if we're dropping all the the pretenses, like I get invited onto these things because I make a lot of money and I have a lot of followers.

1:49Like we're [snorts] like just being real. Um, and so it's like these two skills, which is like how to make videos and how to make a profit, sometimes related, sometimes not, are the reason that I get invited and then ask questions around life. um which I find just kind of interesting. But fundamentally, I I think that so few people know anything about anything that that has been kind of my ultimate um stress reliever. Just like, oh, I don't know. I'm like, I no one else does either, [laughter] you know? And um that's just like and I think I think there are some people who have like natural predispositions because I do think there's something to say with like mental chemistry and things like that because I I'll give you my my logical reasoning around that like nature versus nurture. like there are wolves and there are golden retrievers and there are golden doodles, right? And all they did was they just found the nice wolves and they kept breeding the nice wolves until eventually they had dogs, right? And then they they bred the nicest, cutest ones to make, you know, perma puppies or whatever. And so if I think about 8 billion humans, I'm sure there are some lines that are perma puppies that exist that are just pretty much always happy, that are just golden retrievers, that just are that way. And I think that there are also some lines that are just Doberman's and there are some pitbulls that are there. And I think that you can try to take a pitbull and get it to be a couple order, you know, the happiest pitbull, but it's probably never going to be happier than a golden doodle, even the worst golden doodles. And so I do think that there are bands of kind of change that are possible. So there's like, wait, how doesn't this conflict with the nature nurture thing? Sort of. But the thing is is like I can't control that and it's also not useful for it's like maybe I actually have golden doodle jeans and I've just been living you know in the life that I have. Um maybe that's I'm just an unexpressed golden noodle.

3:34That's what that's what this comes down to. Uh I'm not just a Doberman. Uh but [laughter] but uh it's the question is does it serve me? So I believe that about the world but in thinking that I'm pre-ordained to a certain set of believing doesn't serve me. So, it's like, okay, what are things under my control, my behaviors, and then I'm going to try and adjust those things, you know, to to to maximize likelihood that things that I want to have happen do happen. Um, anyways, to circle back to to to the original uh thought around this, I I've basically spent the vast majority of my life trying to achieve things that I thought would be uh really cool. And I realized about myself that I am not the person who wants to be the richest man in the world. I'm not the person who wants to be the most jacked person in the world. Um, but I do have goals that are just significantly higher than most people's, but not the highest. Like I got to 250 lbs. Um, like much bigger than I am now. Um, and I was like, "This is enough. This is a little too much."

4:36Um, and most people who are in that game just always want more. And I I was like, "No, this is enough." And from a money perspective, like I'm I'm pretty pretty close to there. Like I this is this is enough. Like I I don't need more than a billion or $2, right? And that sounds absurd to say and I recognize that, but but I don't need a hundred, right? And like now maybe we'll continue to grow and we'll continue to do things beyond that, but like I know when I feel like I I I can recognize when enough is enough.

5:06Um, and then you can unplug and then the g all the pieces of the board change because then you're like, "Okay, well, what are my new objectives?" And so I I for sure see a world where at 45 10 years from now, I'll probably get super into longevity and things like that. I I could see that happening. Um, but for right now, um, my life has been more or less just setting goals and then trying to make the days that I have to live in order to achieve them um, as enjoyable as possible. And I said at the, you know, 10, 15 minutes ago, um, that I have three things on my board for what makes a great day. And so for me right now, a great day is a day that I work out with somebody that I like. It's, uh, I eat with people that I like, uh, and I build something.

5:52If I do those three things, at the end of the day, um, I will have earned my shower. And I kind of think like that, like I always want to leave nothing on the field. And those are the days that I enjoy the most when I have nothing left to give. And so in seeing that and knowing that that is the kind of the pattern of good days, then I try to work as hard as I can because I know that those at the end of those days are the days that I enjoy the most. And so for some people, they don't like working like that and their ideal day looks different than mine does. And I would say then great, live that day. This isn't me saying live my way. Um you know, my my favorite way of saying this is like uh my life is not a sermon. It is a documentary.

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