Ein Leben aufbauen, das man wirklich will

0:00A friendly reminder that in three generations, everyone who knew us will be dead, including the people whose opinions stopped you from doing what you wanted all along. Imagine that someone you know achieves every dream and hits every goal they have. Years later, they get old and die. Two years after that, how much do you care? About as much as everyone else will if you accomplish your goals and dreams. Do it for you.

0:25So, I think about death all the time because it's it's probably the central theme. It's probably the thing that I think the most about and I think that influences how I see time and also how I think how how it influences agency like what actions I'm willing to take despite the judgment of others. And so, a lot of times, and it might be because I have more insecurity than everyone that I think like, man, I want to do this thing. And then I hear all these other voices of reasons why I shouldn't do it or why somebody else will say like that's bad or you're bad or like that's wrong, whatever. And so I think I've had to come up with a lot of these devices to get around my own insecurities to take action despite those insecurities.

1:01And the biggest one that I think about is that it doesn't matter whether I achieve all of my goals or I don't achieve all of the goals. In three generations, I'll be forgotten. And the only people who were naysaying against me will also be dead. And so then it's like just do it for me. And then when I wake up every day, there's only one voice I have to listen to.

1:26But that means that you need to be able to work out what to do from first principles. You now no longer have societal norms or assistance or role models or archetypes or expectations. And that's also difficult in a different way. I think that the more you flex whatever that muscle is of like independent thinking, the more it becomes the default way that you think and then everyone else's actions just start looking more and more insane to you.

1:54>> What like what's an example of that that you can think of? >> I mean, shoot, just the most basic ones of like living the life that you don't want, not wearing what you want to wear, not dating who you want to date, um not living where you want to live. like you're living at home and you want to move and your parents say no and you don't make the move or you're dating a girl because she's socially accepted, you know, by your friend group, she's safe, but like there's always some distance in between you, but you're like, I don't want to risk it, right? Or like you're in the the job and every day you go there and you're like, I mean, it's okay. And the idea of just living an okay life just sounds so terrifying to me that the freedom to fail over and over again is still more fulfilling to me. at least it feels like it's real than walking through kind of on autopilot. And so I think that's a lot of the choices that other people make that seem insane to me now, but didn't didn't seem insane to me a decade ago.

2:47You know what I mean? I think it's just like as you practice taking more agency, taking more responsibility for the decisions, then you just get better and better at it. And then it just seems more and more ridiculous. You're like, they're like, "I just can't quit my job." And you're like, "Why?" Like, "No, physically, why?" Like, "Why can't you quit your job?" Like, like, you know what I and they start hyperventilating. It's like, you could could you move in with your parents? Could you move in with a friend? Could you split rent? I mean, I could, but I mean, other people who are going to die in a hundred years would think, "What?"

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