Selbstvertrauen kommt nicht von Affirmationen

0:00Do you want me to do it again? Do I need to do it again? [laughter] >> You don't gain confidence by saying shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by stacking giving yourself a stack of undeniable proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self-doubt. And again, a lot of the tweets that I have are notes to self because like like I have a you know I have a big presentation coming up. We got 500,000 people who are registered for this book launch um that are coming out. And I'm thinking to myself, it's like, how can I guarantee that when I step off stage, no matter what happens, I feel like I've accomplished that I've done a good job.

0:33That I can look at myself in the mirror and say, "Good work." And when I was younger, I used to have no way to do that. That's cuz I measured everything on outcomes. But I feel like as I've gotten a little bit more experienced, I do have a way to win now. But it's hard. And the way that I win is when I finish and I say that there's nothing else I could have done. And so that means that like the reason that I feel confident about this book that's coming out is I wrote 19 drafts of the book. Four full rewrites end to end to make the book. I did 6 hours a day. My first 6 hours from 6:00 a.m. till noon every day for 2 years to get this book to where it is now. And when I was done with the book, I was like, there's nothing else I can do to this. Like I this is it. There's nothing else. Like I can't make it simpler. I can't make it shorter. I can't cut it. I can't add a visual that I should have added. It's done. And so to the same degree with the presentation that I have, I gave myself this framework of like, okay, well, if I were to speak in front of 10,000 people, I would probably spend a good amount of time prepping the presentation to make sure it was good. I was like, well, I'm going to speak in front of 500,000. I was like, so I can I can rationalize spending 50 times the amount of work and effort and time to make this thing exceptional because I mean the numbers are hard to fathom, but that is the numbers. Like if I had a 10,000, that's what I would do. And so it allowed me to take a presentation and you know I have 900 slides that I'm going to get through in 60 minutes. And I have now every single day I do a full draft of the you know I I I say the say the presentation in my head and then I do a second run where I say it out loud and I record it.

2:01And then after I record it, I play the recording with the slides up and I fix or add every slide where I stumble or there's something that should be there or visual and I keep going until now. Right now I'm a we can change out and there's there's not much else I can do to it. And so I'll still continue to do that from now until the day that it happens. But I probably won't have as many changes cuz I should just keep nailing it. And then when I get up there, it doesn't matter if the tech doesn't work or if the, you know, the the book shopping page cart, you know, doesn't, you know, doesn't work or whatever it is because I'll be able to step off stage and look in the mirror and be like, you did everything you could. And the thing is is like no one else will know that because I know that like I could not do that. And I pro like, you know, a lot of people were like, "Dude, you have so much goodwill.

2:46You could probably just say like here, you know, here's the book." Um, but I would know. And if I if I believe what I say I do, which is that I'm the ultimate judge, jury, and executioner of my own self-esteem, then I'm the only person who can say good job or not. And unfortunately, I have incredibly high standards. And so, I can either just always feel like a failure because I always fall short of my own standards, or I can create a standard that I I willingly and consciously accept, which is that I will do enough work that there is nothing left to be done. And that means that I can also do fewer things, which means I have to be more selective about the things that I choose to do. But when I do them, they will be done well and they will be done right. They say that true hell is when the person that you are meets the person that you could have been.

3:29>> Yeah. And …