Warum andere deinen Erfolg oft übersehen

0:00Like why does it hurt me? Like if someone says, "Alex, you're a piece of [ __ ] You're not going to amount to anything." >> If someone accuses you of being poor or fat, >> right? I I would have I'd be like, "I have evidence to the contrary, so this will probably not bother me." But the things that bother us are the ones that, you know, have an element of truth or sometimes not an element are comprised almost entirely of truth and we just don't want to look at it. And so I think it's it's the the twisting the knife is looking in the mirror and saying, "What if they're right?"

0:26Success is the only revenge. As you expand, they shrink into irrelevance. As you get louder, no one can hear them. You don't beat them. You cast a shadow so big no one can see them to begin with. When people copy, they copy the wrong stuff because they don't know why it worked to begin with. And when it breaks, they don't know how to fix it because they didn't build it. So, don't sweat it. Copycats will always be behind.

0:52>> Good [ __ ] [laughter] But success is the only revenge. It is such a lovely >> There's that. Um, >> let me tell you the story behind it. >> Damn right. >> Yeah. So, I was 15 years old. So, this was really early in my life. >> Still jacked. >> Still jacked. Always jacked. Perma jacked. And I uh this is going to sound so lame. So, I had this teacher. So, I'm freshman in high school and I might have been 14, whatever the age is. And I'm walking through the hallway and this this teacher is like an admin of some kind walks out of his office and he's like he's like son. And I was like I'm like you just in trouble. What am I going to do? He's like you work out. And I was like no. He's like why not? I was like I don't know how. He's like I'll show you. He's like you got the jeans.

1:41And so that teacher, Mr. Given um ended up working out with me every day in high school and showed me how to work out. And he probably saw on some level that I was some angsty teenager that felt angry about whatever. And I during our workout sessions would be like this guy said this to me like he you know you know like this boy oh whatever. And I was like man I'm going to come back at our 10-year reunion and I was like I'm going to show him. I was like he's going to be working for me like blah blah blah right. And he's like no he's not. And I was like what do you mean? I was like let me just have my moment. [laughter] He's like no he's not. He's like, "And you're not going to do that? Not if I have anything to say about it when you come back for that 10ear reunion." And I was like, "What do you mean?" He's like, "Because if you come back at a 10-year reunion and say, "Hey, John, like everything I have, look at me now." He's like, the guy's going to laugh and be like, "You did all of this to try and prove me wrong, man. I feel sorry for you." And when he said that, when he actually played out what my like revenge fantasy was in real life, I realized it looked it looked stupid. Yeah. I looked like the beta in the [ __ ] situation, [laughter] right?

2:51>> And so [snorts] he was like, "The only thing that you can do is win so big that all of them constantly compare themselves to you and then you'll forget they exist." And he and that's when he said, he said, "Success is the only revenge." He's like, "It's not the best revenge." He's like, "It's the only one. There's no other revenge because everything else is petty. Everything else does show that you were thinking about these people all day long, which means they win by default." He's like, "All you can do is think about your goal and winning." He's like, "And when you win, that's when you become so big that they shrink into irrelevance. You cast a shadow that no one even can see them behind you."

3:29>> This is the nuance, I think, on on the previous point when we were talking about the toxicity of that fuel long term. >> You can see me light up. >> Yeah. [laughter] Yeah. Yeah. Well, I think that when you think about …