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- Frag dich bei jedem Freund, ob er deine Chance auf dein Ziel erhöht oder senkt.
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0:00Does this feel like a good argument for getting rid of other broke friends? Because I bet other broke friends reduce the pain of staying the same. A friend who supports you is someone who deliberately decreases the possibility of failure. And so if you look at your friends and you ask yourself, does this person increase or decrease the possibility of failure with my goal? It's very easy to answer that question. It's yes or no.
0:26It's increase or decrease. There's no in between. Do they increase or they decrease my possibility that I get to my goal? If the answer is decrease then get rid of them. Because imagine that you have a 100% chance of hitting your goal and you have three friends that have a 30% decrease. Like you might now have a have a [ __ ] you know, whatever 30 * 3 is, whatever 27% chance of hitting your goal now because you have three terrible friends. Like negative experience. Yeah.
0:52Yeah. They're they're they're It's like getting in video games, it's like you've got somebody who's casting like a slow spell on you and you're like moving so slow and you're like weak and like all your all your hits have like half power. Like a lot of people need to shed friendships. But the thing is is that it's more that they call them friends but they're not really friends. They're just there. And they're there because they've always been there. But not because they should be there but because they're going to help you get to where you want to go. They just they're just there. They exist. They're not going anywhere. They don't have goals.
1:26And they're at a different part in their journey. There's nothing wrong with that. But if you're going to start the path of of of drinking glass and starting to to to double time, you got to live your life and you got to live tomorrow's life and the next day's life and start dragging that towards you, they're going to they're going to be upset about it. And so one of the sayings I recently have that I like a lot, which is there are no social obligations, only social consequences.
1:51And the people who want to deliver those consequences often do it by talking to you less and by avoiding you more. They try to spend less time with you and talk to you less to punish you for the fact that you missed the party, you missed the going out, you didn't show up to their wedding, you didn't show up to their dog's christening or whatever. But the crazy thing is is that if you felt obligated to go, then it means you didn't want to go.
2:18And if mean that means that if you didn't want to go and the punishment of not going is that you don't have to go more in the future because they avoid you, they don't invite you anymore, then to me that's a win-win. You saved time today and you save time tomorrow and I don't understand why people are not willing to deal with that. Like just looking at what happens rather than whatever emotional noise they make with their face at you. Like moving past that, great, you expelled air at me, understood, got it. But the outcome is you will no longer invite me, which is what I want.
2:46Great. I feel like we won here. And so thinking second and third order outcomes from what happens when I will break up with this friend or what happens when I offend this friend, a lot of times it's you closer to your goal. And I've always been okay with that. And like if someone if someone like the moment I have seen somebody as decreasing the likelihood that I hit my goal, I am happy to tell them that. Like I think I think you are not good for me.
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