"I'm 24 and About to Lose Everything"

0:00Please give any brutally honest advice to help me. I'm 24, single father, lost my fiance of 9 years, my job, had to drop friends cuz of bad decisions they made, and about to lose my house. Okay. Um I mean, I think you don't need brutally honest advice. Um I think you just need encouragement. Um which is just that bad seasons happen. I'm sure that you contributed partially to it. I think it is worthwhile trying to understand how you contributed to the outcome. I think saying woe is me is not valuable. Um and realizing that you are still alive, and if you had cancer, you would wish for all of the problems you have instead of cancer. All right. And so, it's reframing your reality as someone else's dream.

0:49And the TLDR of this whole thing is that you simply are going to have to change your lifestyle in the short term, uh which might mean moving in with friends, moving back in with parents in the short term, so that you can basically get your feet back under you, which really just means financial stability. Um and then start making bets yet again on what you need to do next. But, I think you need stability right now uh before you try to add more chaos variables into your life cuz you've had a lot of change. And so, I'd say like I would want you to introduce routine, and I would want you to introduce stable environments physically and emotionally, um so that you can weather the time period. But, the strongest frame that you should approach this with is that I'm living someone else's dream.

1:32And just think about what that person's life would have to be in order for your life to be the dream, so that you can flip it. Like Leila has this frame that I've been thinking about a lot lately, which is um 50% of your life is good and 50% of your bad. 50% of your life is good and 50% of your life is bad, and whether you have a good life or a bad life, it's just depends on which 50% you focus on. So, dude, you're healthy, you're young, you have energy, you have a kid who hopefully likes you. Like you have other things that are going for you. You said these other things that are out there.

1:59Like you lost your fiance, but at the same time you're single. And there's some people who are in relationships that all they want is single. So it's like even though these things like many of the things you described are changes to your condition rather than inherently negative outcomes. And so you lost your job, but also many people hate their jobs and wish they could change jobs and you just got to change done you. And so each of these conditions like could be reframed as potentially positive because you have the opportunity now to do whatever you want.

2:28Which in some people that is their goal is freedom and you have it right now. So maybe see it as the beginning of something new and great and emerge from the ashes, which is what the most fertile ground is. Hopefully that helps. If you like this video and you're business owner who wants to break through your current revenue ceiling, I distilled every lesson from scaling 10 businesses past 10 million and three businesses past 100 million into a completely free scaling roadmap that I've used to go from zero to one, zero to 10, and zero to 100 plus. And so you can click here and you can check it out. Again, absolutely free and since you're business owner, I appreciate you and uh enjoy.