Als die Familienintervention komplett schiefging

0:00It's not your life, it's mine. Live yours the way you want and I wouldn't live your life either. And so what ends up happening is they become these statements, these projections that are not actually real. Now, on some level, maybe they were saying that because there was envy in that aspect of like wishing that was there, you know, that they were living that life. But in this particular instance, I don't think it was. I think they genuinely were trying to help. It was a family member and they thought they were that I was being misguided.

0:25>> This is this is an intervention. Let me hold the talking pillow. Alex, we've all come together because we care about you. We really feel like we need to have a conversation here. >> It's exactly what it was. And I got so angry. [laughter] >> You >> so [clears throat] angry. And you know, you can hear Leila like [laughter] patting my back like it's I'm like see you can feel the heat coming off of me as like I go upstairs and like how how dare she, you know, but it really just came down to like her just saying

0:55>> I don't want to live your life. And I think the answer to that question is good, don't. And I think that has been one of the things that has diffused so many of these like hateful comments where people dehumanize you or whatever and make you into this ideal that they reject and it's like you're right. One of the things that uh I had a mentor tell me to say is like when you're in an argu if somebody's like it's like you're you're a terrible person blah blah blah blah you just say you're right and and then they have not they have they have nothing to say and then you just move on with your life. And so like in that way it's acceptance but of like your your idea of who I am that you hate so much.

1:34I accept it. I can live with that even but like we don't want to think what if I am I don't believe that but I can do that and I can end the conversation. >> So I'm taking improv classes at the moment because I'm doing my first live shows in the UK and Ireland. Got this live talk. Uh thank you. Yeah. Uh, everything's >> like this. >> Uh, no. Solo stood on stage for 90 minutes. >> Comedy? >> No, just

2:00>> Oh, okay. >> lessons in sights and stuff. Probably some [ __ ] that I've learned today. >> Uh, anyway, we we released it and every show sold out and then got venue upgraded and then sold out again in less than 45 minutes >> across all of the dates, which was great, but then scary because I now had to speak to like three times as many people per night for additional nights on top of what I thought. Anyway, I'm doing improv. In improv, there is one rule, and the rule is don't punk the game. So, uh, we're doing some exercise where we need to make silly noises as we pass this imaginary energy around, and I need to go like boing and send it back and you need to go whoosh and pass it on and all this sort of [ __ ]

2:39>> The one thing that you're not allowed to do is not make one of the noises that's allowed. >> Yeah. And I really think about punking the game an awful lot. And you see it happen in podcasts, you see it happen on TV, you see it happen and and it can be uh both destructive and constructive, but it's always destructive to the people that are trying to play the game. And it can sometimes be constructive to the person who is punking it. So what you did is you punked the game that we are playing a game of tennis. We are hitting the ball back and forth. Here I go. I hit the ball across the net and where is it? Is it? Hit it back. Hit it.

3:16Hit it back to me. Like, this is the game that we're playing. And you didn't move reciprocally back and forth. You went orthogonally. You went across on a different axis. And you're like, I'm not playing this anymore. This is a different game. I'm not bothered. There's not even words to describe what that means. Now, the way that it can be destructive is, especially if you're having, let's say, a meaningful conversation, sometimes people who are uncomfortable with

3:44>> getting into their emotions can use a variety of different things. They can be scathing, they can be mocking, they can laugh, you know, because they don't want to sit with the discomfort of this particular part of the conversation. That's punking the game in a way that I think is destructive both externally and internally. That was one that was destructive externally. It broke the game, but it was constructive internally. And it is a way refusing to play by the rules that somebody else has set in a game that you didn't agree to is the best prophylactic against stepping into a situation that you do not want. And it's one of the things that wealth affords.