Das Gespräch, das dein Leben verändert

0:00Yeah. The life you want is on the other side of a few hard conversations and you're living a life you hate because you're too afraid to have them. >> I think about that a lot because like whenever I feel anxious or insecure or angry or sad, I'm like, what conversation do I need to have that I'm not having? And so then and usually if I just think for not that long, I'm like this is the conversation I've been putting off. And then, you know, I'm not the the the the poster child of mental health. And so, um, I'll just call myself a pansy for not having the conversation and then and then I just have it. And so, again, I think it's like I need to have this conversation.

0:40And the time between when I have it versus or when I when I know I need to have it, when I actually have it just cuz continues to compress. And if you've ever had like a a breakup or a employee firing, one of the or a quitting if you're an employee, like these things that you dread, I don't know if you noticed it, but like the day you do it, the moment after you do it, I'm like, "How many other conversations can I have?" Like I want to be like I'm like, "Who else?" Yeah, totally. >> A serial killer for awkward conversations

1:05>> when I So like the next series of hard conversations that I had after I I left home was actually like years later. So, I had I had multiple partners in I said I had a I had a partner in one of my gyms. I had a partner in four other gyms. I had uh a partner in a Cairo and dental marketing agency and all of them relied on me to make money and so all of their livelihoods were still dependent on me but I was splitting everything and it was just it was it was horrible for me at the time. And so I remember when I I ended up getting in a DUI and you know I talked to a a performance coach or whatever and he was like your stress and these conversations could literally kill you. He's like they almost did. So I I got in a head-on collision at 60 mph and I walked away. No injuries. Um but it was like my wakeup call but not to stop drinking. It was my wakeup call that I needed to have these conversations. And that's what I was avoiding when I was drinking. It wasn't the alcohol. It was what were the things that I'm avoiding that I'm using alcohol to get away from.

2:03And so, um, the next day I had the first conversation with the first partner and it was horrible. But the moment I was done, I was like, I got to call the other guy. And I called the other one. I was like, this is how it is. And the thing is is I had this back stop of my death of like, you almost just died because you wouldn't have this conversation. And so then it just gave me this courage to just be like like and whatever the reaction was, I was like, I'd rather be alive. Like that was it.

2:29And so it's it's weird though because death has been this really recurring theme in my life that like the same thing happened when I was it like the only thing that gave me enough balls to stand up to my dad to be fair from a distance from the car when I was driving halfway across the country. Like let's not make let's not make me into too big of a hero here. Um was the idea that like I started thinking like every day I was like I hope I don't wake up. You know what I mean? Um, and that was the that was that was the thing where I was like, "This is a big enough problem that like if you don't want to wake up, then what have you got to lose?"

3:00>> Exactly. And that was it. And I was like, "I have nothing to lose." And that was when that was when I think on the last podcast we talked about this where it's like if everybody who's who's like at the bottom and feels like they have nothing going for them reframe that as I have nothing going for me which also means that I have nothing to lose by taking action. It makes you a much more dangerous person. And I think that was the flip that I've had repeatedly shown to me in my life that allowed me to take the step that I was afraid to take. Real quick, if you're a business owner and you are not growing as fast as you'd like, I'd like to give you a free gift.

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