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- Erst zwei Wochen zusammenleben, ohne sich anzupassen, zeigt schnell, ob der Lebensstil wirklich zusammenpasst.
- Die wichtigste Beziehung im Leben ist die zu sich selbst, die sollte man nicht für einen Partner aufgeben.
- Besser jemanden finden, der den eigenen Lebensstil wirklich liebt, als sich zu verbiegen und beide unglücklich zu machen.
- Wer sich von Anfang an nicht verstellt, erspart sich, erst nach Jahren zu merken, dass es nicht passt.
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0:00I'm a father, single father. I got two boys here and my name is DJ Christopherson. There we go. I sell people to people. I'm restarting my virtual staffing company. >> Cool. And we're currently at zero revenue. It's just a matter of getting started. And so we're really confident in that. My question is on a a more of a personal one. So I'm a single father in a serious relationship and she's not a business person at all. Very sweet and supporting. But what would you say would be some things to prepare her for when it comes to
0:30>> spouse or not spouse, your partner is stopping >> my partner. I mean, she doesn't live at the house yet. She it's long distance, but it's coming together, but it's getting really serious. >> Okay. Preparing her for being married to a um a type A >> I think you should give her a try before you buy. Yeah? Seriously. How do you mean? So fly out, spend two weeks with me. I'm not going to cater to you. I'm going to live my life. If the way that I live my life, the way this works, this is how it's going to be. If you like that, let's rock and roll. If you don't I don't want to change. Yeah.
1:02That's true. That's perfect. No? >> [laughter] >> I love it. That's that's great. Thank you. Crushed it. I see the most important relationship that you have as you with your goals because your goals are really just a reflection of yourself. And so I don't want to I especially if I were single, I wouldn't want to sacrifice my relationship with myself essentially for someone else. The recommendation that I gave was what I would give myself which is be you. And if the way that you want to live to maximize the likelihood that you do what you want to do with your life is this way, then rather than try and compromise where both people don't get what they want, try and see if there's somebody who actually just like really loves the way you live. That felt like the easiest first step is like just have her come out and just don't accommodate. Like live the way you'd want to live and if she's thrilled about living that way, then you have a very high high chance of this thing working out because you have little effort.
1:57You're not pretending to be someone you're not. You're not putting on a show. You're just being you. And if being you is enough that she's stoked, then you probably have a good life ahead of you. Now, if she comes out and that's not the case, then at least you didn't have to wait 2 years to find out after you both stopped acting that this is how you really are. And so, I see the goal as how do I get as far forward in the relationship as possible of what would it look like if neither of us acted, and then let's just behave that way. And if it still works, that feels pretty good. So, if you've hit a revenue ceiling, or your entire business relies on you to grow, then I'd love to invite you out to our headquarters here in Vegas to learn how we scale. It's where my team spends 2 days with you to identify the thing that's holding your business back. And so, if that sounds interesting, click, book a call, and if you're a fit, we'd love to potentially see you out here in Vegas.