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- Mobbing in der Schule schärfte den Blick für soziale Signale und half später im Beruf.
- Die schlimmsten Erlebnisse passieren für dich, nicht gegen dich, wenn du weit genug zurückblickst.
- Kleine negative Erfahrungen können, wenn du dranbleibst, zu großen Erfolgen werden.
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0:00The bullying that I went through and the challenges of feeling alone and being on the outside of social groups meant that I developed such attenuation and attention and focus and an ability to distill down what's happening socially, which is why I became one of the best club promoters in the UK for a decade and a half, >> right? >> Because for all of my school life, I'd been obsessing over how Alex wears his tie. Maybe that's why he has friends and I don't have friends. or the particular brand of shoes that he's wearing or the like he carries his bag on that shoulder and I carry carry mine on this shoulder because I couldn't deconstruct why I didn't have friends and everybody else did.
0:36>> Right. >> Okay. So, looking back, would I have rather had the friends >> and had the brother or sister and not develop this skill? >> I can't split test life, so I don't know, >> right? >> But my life's ended up pretty good and I'm happy with it. So, I need to not only look back at that stuff as something not to hate, but something to genuinely be thankful for. And that is frankly something I'm still working through. [laughter]
1:08>> Well, yeah, it goes it goes back to the the first thing which is like the most traumatic events that happen in our life, you know, they happen for us, not to us. But when you expand the time horizon, like those things, and to be fair, there are people who do have really crappy things happen to them and then it destroys them and then that's it. And then they're just done and that's all it is. >> Not everyone has like a moderate amount of childhood bullying and an only child with like parents that care about them or whatever. Like
1:32>> because you were a child coping with the world with the coping skills of a child. >> I'm still largely that as an [laughter] as an adult infant, right? And so, um, but I think that I mean the keep the at least for me, you know, my my key takeaway from both both of these kind of stories is more that all of the all of the the negative things that happen on the micro have the opportunity, if doubled down on, to be huge wins in the macro and sometimes in ways that just a micro win would never have the ability to be doubled down on and become a a capital W win in the macro.
2:09>> [snorts] >> This is probably one of the heaviest hammer blows I think for today. This next one, this is a real hammer. >> Anger tweeting. Great. >> No, it's not. It's an existential one. >> Oh, fun. >> You've already achieved goals you said would make you happy. >> Yeah. >> You've already achieved goals you said would make you happy. >> Alex's notes to self, right? [laughter] Um.