Low expectations and leading from values has been the compass to our marriage.

0:00Warren Buffett was in front of a crowd of college kids and he said, "So, if you could only have one character trait that you would look for in a spouse, what would you look for?" People were like, "Brains and beauty or character, loyalty." Right? And he's like, "You don't want any of that stuff. Do you know what you want? Low expectations. That's how you create a marriage that lasts." He was being incredibly serious but also tongue-in-cheek at the same time. But, I think part of that process, at least how we approached it, was that we were probably the belief Hollywood version of our relationship. It was very much like, "Does this make sense?" And I think because of that approach, big picture, neither of us came in expecting the other person to save us. "I don't need you to make me happy." I prefer it, but like I can continue to live my life and the other person can, too. Then, the expectations are significantly lower.

0:37The fact that Layla never tried to change me and still hasn't throughout our whole relationship, I think is one of the biggest reasons why like we've been good cuz like I resist anyone who tries to change me very hard. And so, low expectations and leading from values has been how we've just used as our compass. And then like we accept the waxes and wanes that occurred during the natural shifts of time.