How Long Can You Go Through Hardship Before You Crack

0:00So the first component of mental toughness in my model is tolerance. And to be clear, I don't think these words matter as much as the thing that they're measuring. All right? So the definitions matter far more than the label I'm describing to it. So your tolerance, which is this first part here, this is how much hardship, the number of hardships or how long you can endure hardship. I keep want to say hard Hard before you have a change in behavior. All right? How much tough stuff can you go through before you crack? All right. before you snap, right? And so if you're somebody who has a long fuse, aka it takes a lot to rock your boat, you have high tolerance, right? It takes a lot of stuff for before you just say like screw it, right? Whatever that moment is, that is your tolerance. How long that fuse is.

0:46And so as I'm going through these, I would love you to think for yourself like okay, am I do I have high tolerance? Do I have medium tolerance? Do I have low tolerance? Because none of us is perfect. And so we can always if we if we can start measuring the components of mental toughness for our own behavior, it means we begin the the process of being able to improve it. Right? So high tolerance is that first period. It's that first the the first kiss of hardship until eventually you crack. How long that fuse is, that is your tolerance.

1:16So like I said, short fuse, anything can set you off and you demonstrate low tolerance in that situation compared to the first example. So it's not um so fundamentally it would mean that it doesn't take a lot to set you off. Now a long fuse on the other hand versus short fuse would look like this. So here's my visual example for you. You guys pulling this in? So super long fuse, high tolerance, super short fuse, low tolerance. That's thing one. Okay.

1:44So and I want to be very clear about this. Tolerance is not about ignoring pain but about how long you maintain your intended behavior before disruption as in how long do you act normally before you stop acting normally. Now you can deal with pain. Now one of the really uh I don't know if you guys have seen this there's a there's an Instagram well there's tons of channels that talk have like animals in the wild. It's like when you see that deer that's walking around normally like eating grass with its guts like spilled out or you see that that lion or whatever that has like porcupine needles in it and it's just like walking along like nothing's bothering. Of course, it's in pain. But the question is how long can you maintain your behavior? How long do you act normally before you stop acting normally?