When People Try to Hurt You and It Backfires

0:00Does it ever hurt your heart watching somebody trying to do something bad to you, but then actually produces good fruit to you? >> Um >> Does it make you look at them differently? Like you cuz I'm assuming you've worked with people that you know they don't have good intentions with you, but you let it slide cuz it's producing fruit for everybody. >> If someone were competent >> Yeah. >> and had malicious intentions, do I think that they would be successful in trying to hurt me? Well, yeah. >> Not even a successful. I'm just saying the fact that you're watching this cuz you have more wisdom than the person at the table. So, you're watching them trying to hurt you, but they're not succeeding. But in their mind they think that they're getting one over you, but in reality you're watching it all play out. That doesn't bother you that they that you in your mind know that they think they're getting one over you.

0:41>> weird sense of satisfaction, actually. >> But you understood what I was saying here? >> No, I totally understand what you're saying cuz it I mean >> so long to get that out of my head. >> Does it hurt me that someone wants to hurt me? >> Yes. >> I think it's unfortunate. But I see that as again what I what I stated earlier like trying to demand absolute understanding from a world that we've given none. Like in a world of 60-second memes and clips, to expect people to have complete context on me and my life is ridiculous.

1:09And who am I to think that I deserve that? That I'm putting myself on this pedestal that I should be everyone's Everyone should have complete context over me, should have total understanding of all of the points and why I It's like it's ridiculous. Of course not. >> How do I have to read all of Proverbs to start behaving that way? And this guy goes, "Nah, I don't believe in it." But this is I I actually What's going on here, [laughter] dude? I'm going to go to heaven and he's going to be like George Muph'A. Alex, come on in.

1:37I'm like, "Dude, tell him about me, dude." >> When I realized that, I think um I'll call it the them, the public. Um I'm sure you've had some when you said you did the U Christmas up or whatever. >> Yeah. >> I realized that there's a certain percentage of the population that is absolutely mentally unwell. And it's, you know, call it 1%, call it 5%. If you have a million people who follow you, 1% is a lot of people. >> [laughter] >> Right? And all of them actively being like, you are terrible at all these things because you remind them. They pattern recognize you from somebody else in their life that might have behaved similar, looks similar, talks similar, whatever it is, right? And so like for me, if I wear a wife beater uh and I am muscular and I look this way, I will remind some people of someone else that probably wasn't very nice.

2:25And it makes sense that their first reaction would be that way. And so do I hold it against them? I don't know. But what I've noticed is that whatever point you can make, so if I said, I think men in general should probably work harder than they are the natural reaction will be, so you think everyone should become a slave to work and money should be their god. If I say, hey, I think that it's worth, you know, taking time and enjoying the fruits of life. It's like, are you trying to make the young men soft?

2:51I think Taylor Swift had this uh acceptance speech where she talked about like her life through the albums that she made. I'm loosely paraphrasing. But she was like, okay, so I'm, you know, I'm I'm [ __ ] and so because I'm dating all these guys and so then I stopped dating men and now I'm now I'm a hermit and I'm a grown and and so she basically just shows how whatever she does, the opposite becomes the narrative. And so it just makes sense that people will create a certain narrative because they see you or anyone as potentially an extreme permutation of whatever value. And so they just naturally react as the equal opposite, which is functionally just making a straw man argument. But straw men are not real. And so understanding that they are attacking an idea that I agree with as in like you should attack that idea.

3:41I also agree with you. That's not what I was saying, but I agree with you. And so um I think that has helped. And then the other one is is actually asking myself, what if they're right? So, I think we expend a huge amount of effort and let's say we receive public criticism for something and thinking like and we resist it. We're like, I'm not that way. That's not true. Cuz for sure, there are things that are just completely ridiculous.

4:05But, there are times where like people will give you feedback and you're like, [ __ ] Like, I think what if they're right? And I think sometimes just like the open acceptance of like, you know what? I can see why they would say that. I do come across kind of arrogant or whatever. Or on that podcast, I was a little short or maybe I was a little robotic or whatever. >> Yeah. >> And and but like, there's so much release, if you will, from like the emotional pressure of trying to fight all of these comments or things like that versus being like,

4:36>> I didn't even notice it from that point. >> Yeah. >> You're you're Oh, wow. That's such a good way to deal with it without even really dealing with it. You're not angry and it's it's coming from a humble heart. It could be true. I'll I'll I'll review it and I'll get back to it. >> That might be true. If you like this video and you're a business owner who wants to break through your current revenue ceiling, I distilled every lesson from scaling 10 businesses past 10 million and three businesses past 100 million into a completely free scaling roadmap that I've used to go from zero to one, zero to 10, and zero to 100 plus. And so, you can click here and you can check it out. Again, absolutely free. And since you're a business owner, I appreciate you and enjoy.