When you make big life decisions, don’t listen to the people closest to you, listen to the peop

0:00You have to [music] listen to the people who are closest to your goals, not closest to you. There's you know that famous Harvard study that found out that people's net [music] worth was correlated with their reference group. Now, a lot of people mistakenly say it's the five people you spend the most time with, but I believe it's the five [music] people you compare yourself to. Fundamentally, the people that are in your surroundings, if they don't have what you want, don't listen to what they say. And I think it's hard to do [music] because as humans, we're social creatures and we learn to listen to the opinions of others. When they're your child, you say, "Is [music] this good or bad?" And adults say that's good, that's bad, and you kind of incorporate and that's how you had to you learn how to [music] make your way in the world. Then you become an adult and you realize that some of the people who gave you your good and bad advice are actually morons because you meet [music] them down and it's Doug and you're like, "Doug's an idiot. I listened to Doug?" Which is like, well, I was 8 years old and I didn't know any better. But [music] I think honestly a lot of adulthood is fundamentally unlearning things and and choosing to know that you believe your beliefs for your own reasons. [music] And so, I think that if you cannot explain why you believe what you believe, it's not your belief, it's someone else's.