If you’re stuck between two paths, ask yourself “which of these expands my life more?”

0:00Surround yourself with only people who make you better. You'll probably get better than you are. And if you're that rare combination of ambitious yet humble, you may even get better than they are. Cuz the fastest way to become successful is to associate with people who are more successful than you. And when you do that, you'll get some of the fastest learning and behavior change you can possibly experience. The problem is they don't want anything to do with you. And so you have to find one thing that you're more successful than them at, and then give them that thing freely.

0:26[music] Not at cost, not tit-for-tat, freely. [snorts] Without expectation. So there's this unspoken code of people who are higher up, they're almost all givers. The easiest way to see someone who's out of place is to spot the taker. Spot the person who's always angling, >> [music] >> right? Once you do actually provide value, which means that you help them do something good they couldn't do before, or help them avoid something bad that they used to have to deal with, [music] or just get the same outcome that they're used to faster or cheaper, they'll let you hang around. Then you learn as much as you possibly can and try and be the best in the group at everything. And when that happens, they'll see you as the leader. You won't even have to say it. The power dynamics will just shift.