Die unbequeme Wahrheit über die Meinung anderer

0:00The more I listen to this, the better my life gets. If they don't have what you want, don't listen to what they say. There's no greater waste of time than justifying your actions to people who have a life you don't want. That was a message to my younger self, but um I remember I got in and well, I won't I won't call it out. Um [sighs and gasps] let me see how I can say this the right way. Um, you know what? I'll just say it. I'll whitewash the names. So, I was with a family member and we're all around the kitchen table. It's during the holidays cuz I don't go home very much. And they kind of started attacking me. Um, and they were like, I would never live your life. You're so unbalanced. Like attacking. And I was like, what are you saying?

0:56And she said, "I I I just would never do that." And I was like, "All right, well, what part of my life is unbalanced?" I was like, "Do you feel like my health is unbalanced?" I was like, "Do you feel like my marriage is unbalanced?" I was like, "Do you feel like my finances are unbalanced?" I was like, "What part of my life do you feel like is out of whack?" She was like, "You know, I'm I'm not as good as with words as you are."

1:22And that was the and I was like, "Okay, so the fact that you can't make a logical argument, I'm not going to continue how how that conversation went." But the the TLDDR of that was I really thought a lot about it. And it came down to I wouldn't live your life. And my response to that is good. Don't. It's not your life. It's mine. Live yours the way you want. And I wouldn't live your life either. And so what ends up happening is they become these statements, these projections that are not actually real. Now on some level maybe they were saying that because there was envy in that aspect of like wishing that was there, you know, that they were living that life. But in this particular instance, I don't think it was. I think they genuinely were trying to help. It was a family member and they thought they were that I was being misguided.

2:12>> This is this is an intervention. Let me hold the talking pillow. Alex, we've all come together because we care about you. We really feel like we need to have a conversation here. It's exactly what it was. And I got so angry. [laughter] >> You >> so angry. >> And you know, you can hear Ila like >> patting my back like it's I'm like see you can feel the heat coming off of me as like I go upstairs. I'm like how how dare she, you know, but it really just came down to like her just saying I don't want to live your life. And I think the answer to that question is good. Don't. And I think that has been one of the things that has diffused so many of these like hateful comments where people dehumanize you or whatever and make you into this ideal that they reject and it's like you're right. One of the things that uh I had a mentor tell me to say is like when you're in an argu if somebody's like it's like you're you're a terrible person blah blah blah blah. You just say you're right and and then they have not they have they have nothing to say and then you just move on with your life. And so like in that way it's acceptance but of like your your idea of who I am that you hate so much.

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