Was gegen Angst und innere Unruhe hilft

0:00Let me give you a visual of the difference between sadness and anxiety. I'm going to draw them and you tell me which one is anxiety and which one is sadness. Which one's anxiety? Which one's sadness? Anxiety. Sadness. Sadness comes from a perceived lack of options, which is why it feels like hopelessness.

0:30Anxiety comes from many options, but a lack of priorities, which is why it feels like paralysis. So looking everywhere, but moving nowhere. And so you solve sadness with knowledge and anxiety with a decision. The goal from here is to see the path that's available to you. And you have to do that by learning. Once you have a path, if you have too many paths, then you have to start cutting paths off. So you can say this is where I'm going and then I have no more anxiety around this. So if you don't know what to do, the answer is to learn. If you know what to do, the answer is to do it. And if you're already doing it, the answer is to never stop. What I will reinforce here is that none of those three actions that I just defined have anything to do about how you feel today or in this moment. I want to be very clear. People think that I'm this uh unemotional or zero affect person. It's not true at all. Of course, I feel things. The difference is so what?

1:33Like I can feel terrible and still do the acts that increase the likelihood of success. It's not trying to negate the fact that you have emotions or that you have bad feelings. It's about continuing on the path one step in front of the other despite that. And I think that the more you learn that your actions do not need to be equated to how you feel, the more these feelings can just be in the backdrop and ultimately they make you resilient. So let me show you what resilience looks like.

2:10Which one's resilient? This one. Why? because you return to baseline behavior faster. Now, toughness is a different thing, which is how much does it take before I have this decrease? And then there's a third vector, which I'll find the word for it. But when you do have the decrease, how low do you go?

2:37To me, the ideal scene is that. And the thing is is that all of these things are happening throughout this whole period and the other people in your lives are doing this, right? Or they're just doing low and they just never recover, which we've all met those people. If you want to become resilient, what are the actions that you take? You say, "Okay, this occurred. How long will it take me for my behavior to return to baseline?" And if my behavior never changes, did it bother me to begin with?

3:06And maybe it might have bothered you, but it didn't matter because it never changed your behavior. One of the things that will set you apart is the ability to move forward despite how you feel. This is, you know, Ila's classic uh her most known quote, which is uh your mood, follow the plan. And I would say like a lot of you guys don't know Ila that well. Laya is one of the most mentally resilient people that I've ever met. And she pulled herself out of a deeper hole than I ever did. She started from a poorer family. She had a worse home situation. She had a worse personal she had, you know, she got arrested six times before she was 18 or 19. Like she she has worked on her more than any person that I know. Not to say that it's not more than any person in existence, of course not. I have no idea. But of the people that I've met, she has done the most active work and I have learned a lot from …