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- Bei der Veteranen Methode stellst du dir vor, ein Problem passiert tausendmal, dann fühlst du dich schon jetzt so, als hättest du dich daran gewöhnt.
- Als sein Hemd einlief, half ihm der Gedanke, dass es normal wäre, wenn das immer passiert, dann muss man sich darüber nicht ärgern.
- Als sein Kater mit 18 Monaten starb, half die Frage, was er erwartet hatte, und die Erwartung nach unten zu korrigieren machte aus Trauer Dankbarkeit.
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0:00I've a lot of frames on dealing with stress and um missed expectations. Uh because I think um if you're in business or really just in life in general, like you're bound to have expectations that are not met. And so I've just have a number of to your word, tricks um that I've used. So like one of them is one that I call the frame of the veteran, which I got from Dr. Cashy. Um which is basically like something bad happens, and then you imagine that it happens a thousand times in a row after that. And then you think, okay, well how would I feel on the thousandth time this happening? And usually on the thousandth time you would have already habituated to it and just be a part or a fact of life. And it's like, well, if that's how I can feel about it then, then I might as well feel about it now that way now.
0:39And so I actually the first time I ever used it, I had um I just bought this this you sound so hokey. Um I got this flannel shirt that I really liked. It was like a color scheme I thought was cool. And um uh the maid that I had shrunk it. And uh I was like super annoyed. And I thought to myself, I was like, well, if everything that she ever did shrunk and every time I wash something it shrunk, then I wouldn't be upset about it cuz it just would be how clothes work in the dryer. Or so if that's how it always was, then I wouldn't be upset about it. So if I can choose to not be upset about then, then I won't be upset about it now. And then it was over. And so it's like having like frameworks like that um that have that have served me really well. Like the the reason I had the the time one uh when we just talked about like lifespan is like when my cat Bill died, I was super bummed cuz I really liked the cat and he died at like 18 months. So it's kind of like weird. It's like a freak, you know, odd death. Um and I remember being sad about it. I was like, why am I sad? Like what like why am I sad?
1:35Um and I was like, I feel like it's not fair that he lived such a short life. I was like, okay, so that means that I had an expectation that he would live longer than he did. I was like, what if cats only live six months? And I got to hang out with Bill for 18 months. Well, then I'd be like, well, [ __ ] I mean he lived a good long life. I mean, I got him three times longer than most people get their cats. And so then all of a sudden like my sadness was like it shifted to like more of an appreciation for the time that I had with him. And so it was it was simply just shifting my expectation around what I I expected or I demanded of the universe that my cat should live longer.
2:11But like but why? And then um I think about that within the context of like our lives because you know, if all humans live to 20 if we live like I'm 34, I'm like, "Dude, I'm murdering it." But like within the context of like all time, we all don't live long at all. And so if I got to live the way that I wanted to live for the extent of my life, it's only the expectation that I would deserve to or demand that I live longer and have that unmet, which is the thing that would cause me to be more upset. But if if I make life choices that cause me to live till 75 versus 85 like the lifespan is still the lifespan and the only thing I lose is the present. So all of these things, what I like about it is that [clears throat] it's just a change in perspective. It's not a change in what it is, it's just a different framework of mind.
2:54>> How you see it. And that makes that makes all the difference. Yeah, and that's and that's um you know, like one of the other frames I use is uh is just zooming all the way out, which is one of my favorites, which is just uh like you like you have this instance that bothers you, whatever happened, right? I lose $15 million and I'm really upset about it. And then I just like zoom all the way out and I'm like, you know, far enough out you can't even see the Earth. And I just like remind myself of that and then I'm like, "Okay, this just doesn't matter." And then I zoom back in again. And so um I usually play with time and space in terms of uh trying to reframe uh whatever the issue is that I'm upset about and think like what what is what is the expectation that I have and how is it unmet and how can I shift that expectation? And what if the expectation were completely different? What if every time I drove there was always 20 minutes of traffic?
3:36Would I still be upset? Probably not cuz it would be just like how it always is. And so like using those things on a regular basis, I think have allowed me to make better decisions and be a little bit less emotional or reactive to bad news. Um and I think if you compound that like small amount of space that you can create for yourself for an extended period of time, you can make better decisions. And so, that's probably been to answer your question, like some of the tricks that um have been really useful for me. Real quick, if you are a business owner and you are not growing as fast as you'd like, I'd like to give you a free gift. So, my team and I put together the $100 million scaling road map, which is basically 200 hours of us looking over all the portfolio companies we've had and what stages of growth they went through and more importantly, where they got stuck and how they got past it.
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