Niemals aufgeben: Warum Durchhalten zählt

0:00If you have your menu option of things that you can do in life, just remove quitting as one of them and then try your next idea. And if you are in that rocky cut scene and you're 2 months [music] in, 3 months in, remember that the rocky cut scene in the movie lasts a couple seconds and the rocky cut scene in real life might last a few years. And so whenever I get to a low point where I think, why do I even bother doing this? I just like to remind myself, this is where most people stop and this is why they don't win. And as hard as this is going to sound, the best thing that I ever did was not listen to other people's opinions about my life. [music] They don't want the best version of you.

0:34They want the version of you who best serves them. And unfortunately, the closer people are to you, the more similarly they'll see themselves and you. And the more your success will make them feel bad about themselves. And I can promise you this from somebody who might be a little further. I have more people who root for me now that I've already won than people who rooted for me along the way. No one is doing as well as you think they're doing. So by comparison, everyone is better off than they think because the cumulative median visually is probably three times higher than what the actual median is. And so if you're like, "Oh, I'm average or slightly below average compared to the perceived median of society. You're probably way above average." [music] And that's okay. And being above or below average doesn't even matter anyways because you've got a lot of innings left. there's a lot of quarters left to play. And so like until the day you die, you still have hope. You still have a chance. You can still keep moving forward. Whenever someone gives you your their opinion about what you should do with their your life, it's really them saying, "This is my preference of how I want to live my life." And I say, "Great. Live your life that way and I'll live my life this way." Because me living my life has no effect on you. So live your life the way you want to live it. And I don't want your life either.

1:47They state make those statements because [music] they feel uncomfortable and so they have to like release it and so they say that to you to make themselves feel better and that's their problem not yours. I think I've learned a lot of frames around not caring about others people's [music] opinions be out of necessity because I was so crippled by the opinions of other people for what felt like such a long time that I always had to face my death in order to get myself to move. And so I talk about death a lot because it has actually been one of the few things that actually motivates me to change my behavior. And so when I had done all the things that I thought would impress other people, one, I realized that they didn't really care.

2:24And secondly, I realized that I deeply cared about how much I hated my life. When I was like, is this what winning feels like? Because if this is what winning is, then I don't want to play. By thinking, I'd rather be dead [music] than continue to play this game. I was forced to change the game I was playing, which is like, well, what is a game that I would like to win at? Well, I'd like to win a game that [music] is by rules that I set out and there are things that I can control. And then those people because you break their mold of what they're supposed to be doing and they might be miserable, too, but they are not willing to take the risk that you're willing to take because they care about other people's opinions more than you do because they haven't gone through that little journey that you just went through. [music] Fine. You do it your way. They do it their way. I mean, I went from prodigal son, my father's super proud of me, graduating Vanderbilt in three years, president of the fraternity, vice president of the powerlifting team, management consultant, to a minimum wage employee.

3:11Like, that's a pretty significant drop in status. I have these frames because people will say whatever they want, but for me, that relative drop in status was a lot. I went from about as high status as you can get in a as a 22-year-old to about as low status as you can get. [music] I mean, I remember having people be like, "So, did you go to college?" And I was like, "Yeah, [music] I went to college and I [ __ ] murdered it and I did everything." And the cuz the implied question is, "Why are you here?" And so that's what in the beginning hurt a ton.

3:40But then I just realized that they just didn't know and [music] they were asking genuinely. And all of my judgment around that was just my own problem. How I'm perceiving this question is affecting my mood to such a great degree. What if I applied this to every question? All these people are asking me things and I'm either getting offended or getting complimented, but the statement doesn't change. So that sounds like a me problem. And so the more I started diving into things like that, the less bothered I became by other everyone else's opinion because they also have no context. Even if they did mean it as an insult, so what if they're saying, "Well, I'm better than you." I'd be like, "Yes, [music] you are." A lot of even really successful people frame their success around trying to prove someone wrong, right? But when you try and create your [music] entire existence in opposition to someone, you actually give them complete control over your life. It means that because of the things that this person has said, I will choose to change all of my behavior.

4:27[music] Which basically means that the directives from that person have commanded you to do whatever you do. And if you like to be a free person and want to be somebody who acts of their own valition, then I choose to accept [music] insults so that I can live my life rather than living in contrast to them and giving my control to the person who insulted me. I that would mean I put me changing your mind above my goals, which I don't do. My goals are more important to me [music] than changing your mind. Real quick, if you're a business owner and you are not growing as fast as you'd like, I'd like to give you a free gift. So, my team and I put together the $100 million scaling roadmap, which is basically 200 hours of us looking over all the portfolio companies we've had and what stages of growth they went through and more importantly where they got stuck and how they got past it. And so we broke it into these 10 stages and we made this little kind of quiz thing where if you put in your business information, it'll tell you where you're at and the most important part for you, what to do for each of the functions of the business across product, marketing, sales, customer success, recruiting, IT, human resources, and finance. And so no matter what you're struggling with, someone else has already struggled with it and solved it. And so I'd like to give you this thing absolutely free. free. You can go to acquisition.com/roadmap, plug in your business information, and if you want us to actually help you deconrain the business and you're trying to scale, we'd love to help you out on the thank you page. You can just book a call with my team and we will look at the business, see if we can help, and if we can, we'll invite you out to Vegas and we'll do this in person live.